The ruling on holding an annual wedding feast for the deceased and the parents' dinner
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The questioner:
This listener, Waleed al-Naghamish, asks: What is the ruling on holding an annual feast as charity for a deceased person on the day that coincides with his death, or a few days before or after it?
The Shaykh:
It is not permissible to hold a feast on the occasion of a death. This is not permissible. Except for the family of the deceased, who prepare food for them and give it to them because they are occupied with their calamity. This is based on the saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) when Ja'far ibn Abi Talib (may Allah be pleased with him) was martyred, that he said, "Prepare food for the family of Ja'far, for something has come to them that occupies them." So the family of the deceased prepares food for them and gives it to them; they are not the ones who prepare food for people. This is contrary to the Sunnah and is a form of wailing, as came in the athar. Yes.
The questioner:
And what is the ruling on preparing food every year for the deceased, which is called the parents' dinner?
The Shaykh:
The parents' dinner means giving charity; this is charity for the parents. It is called a dinner, and it is charity. This is good. Yes.
This listener, Waleed al-Naghamish, asks: What is the ruling on holding an annual feast as charity for a deceased person on the day that coincides with his death, or a few days before or after it?
The Shaykh:
It is not permissible to hold a feast on the occasion of a death. This is not permissible. Except for the family of the deceased, who prepare food for them and give it to them because they are occupied with their calamity. This is based on the saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) when Ja'far ibn Abi Talib (may Allah be pleased with him) was martyred, that he said, "Prepare food for the family of Ja'far, for something has come to them that occupies them." So the family of the deceased prepares food for them and gives it to them; they are not the ones who prepare food for people. This is contrary to the Sunnah and is a form of wailing, as came in the athar. Yes.
The questioner:
And what is the ruling on preparing food every year for the deceased, which is called the parents' dinner?
The Shaykh:
The parents' dinner means giving charity; this is charity for the parents. It is called a dinner, and it is charity. This is good. Yes.
Source
قناة «إذاعة القرآن الكريم»، نور على الدرب مع معالي الشيخ صالح الفوزان ح7500 — youtube.com (12:58)
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