The Importance of Repaying Insult with Kindness

Question:
May Allah reward you. The confused sister says she has symbolized her name with this symbol: S-F-H, Iraq for the date palm. She says her question includes the topic of enmity, hatred, and animosity between siblings. In previous episodes of this blessed program, I heard that the deeds of the servant are raised to Allah, Mighty and Majestic, on Mondays and Thursdays, except for those between whom there is enmity and hatred. But if there is a situation like mine, what is to be done? I have a sister who is a year and a half younger than me, and she hates me and does not love me, but she talks to me if she needs my help, and she gets angry with me after the need is met. And it is not just that; she always works to win my mother’s affection and incites her against me so that she is the one who is favored. She lies in order to incite my mother against me. And because of what she did, there were problems between me and her, and between me and my mother, so I swore that I would not speak to her, because even when she makes a mistake, she does not come to me and apologize. Is it reasonable for me to always be the one to initiate reconciliation with her, even though she does not deserve it? So guide us in that, and may you be rewarded.

Answer:
Yes. It is authentic that deeds are raised to Allah on Mondays and Thursdays, and He forgives every believing man and woman except for two men between whom there is a grudge. He says, "Give these two some time until they reconcile." Their forgiveness is delayed until they reconcile and the grudge and enmity between them are removed. This is what encourages reconciliation and the removal of grudges between brothers. And if your sister is mistreating you, as you mentioned, this should not cause you to mistreat her; rather, you should treat her with kindness. Allah the Exalted said: meaning .
Allah the Exalted said: . And in the hadith, , it is reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) had relatives who were kind to him while they were mistreating him, and he would draw near to them while they distanced themselves from him. So he said (peace and blessings be upon him): "Indeed, ." This is encouragement for him to continue in his kindness toward his relatives, even if they mistreat him. So if you maintain the family ties and reconciliation with your sister, you are doing good, and you have fulfilled the obligation upon you. As for her, she bears the sin; she is exclusively responsible for the sin in what comes from her. You have fulfilled the right that is upon you and cleared your conscience toward her. As for her, she bears her burden. Yes.