Absence from a wedding ceremony due to an excuse and the wife’s travel to it
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The questioner:
This questioner says: I refrained from attending the wedding ceremony of my wife’s sister,
The Shaykh:
Yes.
The questioner:
He says: I refrained from attending the wedding ceremony of my wife’s sister, which is located about three hundred kilometers south of Ta’if. This is because I have a child who is one and a half months old, and I fear for him the hardship of the journey, as well as the loud sounds of the hand drum (duff) that accompany these weddings. I am absent from my parents, with their consent, for most of the year due to my studies, and I love to keep them company and be dutiful to them during these few months, meaning the vacation. Despite this, I allowed my wife to attend, but without the child. Is there a sin on me for not responding to the invitation?
The Shaykh:
There is no sin on you because you mentioned that you have two excuses. First, the care of the small child, because the journey is dangerous for her, and this is obligatory upon you. Second, pleasing your parents and being dutiful to them. There is also a third excuse, which is the wrongdoings that occur at weddings and celebrations.
The questioner:
May Allah reward you. He asks: Is my allowing my wife to attend without her child a correct action, or is it a mistake?
The Shaykh:
Your allowing your wife to attend her sister’s wedding is permissible, if Allah wills, if she goes with a mahram (a relative one may not marry), because you said the distance is three hundred kilometers, so a mahram is necessary.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you.
This questioner says: I refrained from attending the wedding ceremony of my wife’s sister,
The Shaykh:
Yes.
The questioner:
He says: I refrained from attending the wedding ceremony of my wife’s sister, which is located about three hundred kilometers south of Ta’if. This is because I have a child who is one and a half months old, and I fear for him the hardship of the journey, as well as the loud sounds of the hand drum (duff) that accompany these weddings. I am absent from my parents, with their consent, for most of the year due to my studies, and I love to keep them company and be dutiful to them during these few months, meaning the vacation. Despite this, I allowed my wife to attend, but without the child. Is there a sin on me for not responding to the invitation?
The Shaykh:
There is no sin on you because you mentioned that you have two excuses. First, the care of the small child, because the journey is dangerous for her, and this is obligatory upon you. Second, pleasing your parents and being dutiful to them. There is also a third excuse, which is the wrongdoings that occur at weddings and celebrations.
The questioner:
May Allah reward you. He asks: Is my allowing my wife to attend without her child a correct action, or is it a mistake?
The Shaykh:
Your allowing your wife to attend her sister’s wedding is permissible, if Allah wills, if she goes with a mahram (a relative one may not marry), because you said the distance is three hundred kilometers, so a mahram is necessary.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، باب قول الله تعالى: {حَتَّى إِذَا فُزِّعَ عَنْ قُلُوبِهِمْ — youtube.com (44:07)
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