How is patience, and is crying in a low voice out of distress

The questioner : This questioner asks: How is patience? And is crying in a low voice with complaining considered distress? Yes, and is crying in a low voice with complaining and the inability to perform usual tasks considered distress, knowing that these actions are beyond a person's control? I ask the Honorable Shaykh to clarify.

The Shaykh : Patience in the face of calamity means that a person restrains himself from saying something forbidden, doing something forbidden, or having a forbidden thought in his heart. This is patience. He does not complain in his heart about the decree of Allah, nor does he say with his tongue words that indicate complaint, such as "Oh, my woe," "Oh, my ruin," "Oh, my regret," and the like. Nor does he do with his limbs an action that indicates complaint, such as slapping the cheeks, tearing the clothes, pulling out the hair, and the like. This is patience.
As for crying that comes from a person without his intention, it does not harm him. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said when his son Ibrahim died: "The heart grieves and the eye sheds tears, but we say only what pleases the Lord. Indeed, we are in sorrow over your departure, O Ibrahim." Likewise, the righteous predecessors used to cry over their dead with the natural crying that the innate disposition requires. As for wailing, raising the voice in crying, and forcing the crying, this is contrary to what the Sunnah brought. In fact, it is established from the Prophet