Does the one in i'tikaf (spiritual retreat in the mosque) go out to offer condolences for the death of a relative?

The questioner : The questioner says: It is well known that the period for offering condolences is three days. I heard about the death of my nephew, and I am currently in i'tikaf (spiritual retreat in the mosque). He passed away two days ago. Should I go out to offer condolences and then return? Return.

The Shaykh : His statement that it is well known. Yes. That the time for condolences is three days. I hope the brother questioner. Dial. Will clarify for us.

The questioner : On what basis is this knowledge built?

The Shaykh : That the period for condolences is three days. Greeting. And whoever among you, O those present, has knowledge. They are lecturing. On the fact that the period for condolences is three days. Yes. Let him inform us. The presentation. We begin. Prevented, yes. Custom. Because I do not know a text in this issue that specifies it. He answers him. And the reason for condolences. Its affliction. The calamity.
As long as the effects of the calamity remain on the bereaved. And. Then condolences. Prescribed? Group. People differ. Some are not affected by a calamity at all. Relationship. And the calamity may be alleviated. Good. Yes, yes, yes. I love you. One has a cousin. He has millions of dirhams. And he is poor. And his cousin is with him in this worldly life in long and extensive problems. So his cousin, the one with the millions, died. Is he grieved by his loss? And let us suppose that this cousin of his was also extravagant with himself. But he did not reach the level of. Of disbelief. And he hates him for the sake of Allah. A harmful cousin. And negligent in the rights of Allah. No. And the owner of millions. Yes. And this one is poor. Small. So the owner of the millions died. Millions. Is he grieved or not?

The questioner : Or not?

The Shaykh : He may be grieved with joy. Welcome. Is such a person offered condolences? And this. What is known, what is known. I hope. If it were not that I do not like to take a risk, I would say may he be pleased with whom? Yes. In any case. Now.
People differ in being affected by a calamity. So we offer condolences to the bereaved as long as he is affected by his calamity. And the purpose of condolences is strengthening, strengthening this bereaved person on patience and endurance. And the purpose of condolences is not wailing. And lamenting, and softening hearts, take it. No, no, the purpose is strengthening, and therefore you find this material, this. The letter 'ayn and zay. Indicates tawhid (the oneness of Allah). And the economic form. Is it a specific form that a person does not exceed? His place. Or a form that suits it. Good. Among people. Club. Or most of them have a specific form for the merchant. If he meets it. May Allah magnify your reward and improve your punishment. The one who says it does not know what the meaning is, but he does not know what the meaning is. Yes. This is what. And the best with which a person is offered condolences. Yes.
With which the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) offered condolences to one of his daughters. Daughters. And she sent a messenger to him. First. Requesting from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) that he should. Yes. So the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to this messenger. He says, tired, tired. Let her be patient. Good? And let her earn. Big. Two great words. For Allah is what He took. We take. And for them. And everything is with Him. Indeed. In a term, a term. Allah is the Greatest, how great are the words of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him). Thank you. And how strong is it on the hearing. And how strong is its effect on the heart. Tired. I seek refuge. Let her be patient. Who? And let her reckon. This. These. These two. Two sentences indicating the action. And it is the obligation of patience and reckoning. For Allah is what He informed us. One and what He desired. This sentence reassures the person that everything is the property of Allah. For Allah. The son or the daughter who has the daughter of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him). Hello. To whom is it? For Allah, if He took her, she is His. And if He kept her, she is. For Allah, what I love, and everything from efforts. With a term that is called this faith in qadar (divine decree). Everything with a specific term. Hand. It is not possible for any creation. Absolutely, absolutely. If a man. First. Was treating a tight rope tied on. Expelled from the roads. Please. In treating the loops of the rope. The rope. He said it. And the war started. Hello. The custom, when a man is tight on the rope and it starts. It turned over. Ha ha, two months, O Badr. Yes. His hand rose until it struck his eye. If this man said. Chirp. If it were not. I try. First. Untie this rope from the vertebra of the eye. And what do you say, you say no, it is not a mistake. He says no, it did not happen. It is not possible, absolutely. Absolutely.
And therefore it is obligatory for a person to believe in the qadar (divine decree) of Allah. Instead. So if we want to offer condolences to a bereaved person, the best with which we offer him condolences is what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) offered his daughter with. There. But with that. Also. If we see that this bereaved person is not affected by such a narration. We answer with other words that suit, or not? We say to him, O my brother, this is the command of Allah, and Allah. This is a religious state. This response was cursed at first. Then it was found, then it was negated, and you will be negated as it was negated, and the like of that, instead. Until this old age turns away from him. As for us coming with stirring phrases. Big. This is not permissible. Merchant. Mentions that.
Ibn 'Aqil (may Allah have mercy on him). Allah. A son of his died, who was his eldest son. And the name of the son was 'Aqil. So they took him to the cemetery. Once. And his father (may Allah have mercy on him) was affected by his death because the son was raised with a upbringing of knowledge. This is knowledge. So when the people saw this thing affected. The scholar, the scholar, they were also affected. So a man shouted, saying. He says. A man shouted, saying. He says. O you noble one. He has a father, an old sheikh. So take one of us in his place. Position. If we were, O Muslims. When the common people heard, they intensified the crying. Stumbled. So he said to him, what? Because it is 'Aqil (may Allah have mercy on him). In the name of Allah. O this one. The Qur'an was only revealed to calm sorrows, not to stir sorrows. And this is correct. Correct. The Qur'an was revealed to calm the parties, not to prepare. And he forbade him from that. The Qur'an was revealed to calm the parties because when a person reads the Qur'an and he is in a calamity, he forgets the calamity. If they read with reflection. Abu. And pondering, a similar one was revealed. Music. It was not revealed in order to stir the parties. As we hear about some people that when the deceased dies. They gather in his house. We live it. And they began to wail. And cry and lament, so this is considered. Considered. Condolences or is it considered stirring the calamities? Yes. Yes. This is stirring the calamities.
And therefore the people of knowledge said. From there. That it is forbidden to lament and wail. And the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said. Peace. The wailer, if she does not repent. Will be established on the Day of Resurrection. I. And on her. A shirt of pitch, and a coat of filth. O Lord. We ask Allah for safety. And on the Muslims. That they do not look at the conditions of their era at all. Leave it. And what some people do. In these matters. Let them look at our era. To the world of the righteous. Righteous. Of the Companions. And the Tabi'un (the generation after the Companions) who followed them with excellence. Yes. And perhaps we will limit ourselves to this. Why? Why? It is not finished, it is not finished, we say, do I go out. Condolences and I am. There is no confirmation. He says, go out for the hair, or I don't know how. Yes. Yes.
And as for me, I say, does he go out for condolences and he is in i'tikaf? He does not go out. He does not go out in haste and committing a sin, except if he loves. To invalidate his i'tikaf, let him do so, because i'tikaf. If it is a sunnah (recommended practice) and not obligatory. The obligatory. Does a person have the right to invalidate it? So if he sees. He sees. That not going out for condolences. Leads to severing family ties, and that it is necessary. Of condolences. Yes, and that it is necessary for condolences, let him go out, and not leave the obligatory thing for the sake of remaining on the permissible thing.