The Role of Parents and Children in Addressing the Deviation of Youth
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Question:
Your Eminence the Shaykh! The questioner asks: What is the role of the mother and father in addressing the deviation of youth? And is there a word for the parents regarding this very sensitive topic?
Answer:
In the name of Allah, and all praise is due to Allah. Yes, this is an advice for both the parents and the children, advice for everyone to cooperate in righteousness and piety. The father advises his son and instructs him in goodness, humility, the rectification of intention, and the care for knowledge. The son is humble toward his father, assists him in goodness, listens to him, and obeys his guidance and direction if it aligns with the truth. Cooperation is expected between the son and the father, and between the daughter and the mother, for all of them—parents and children, male and female—to cooperate in righteousness and piety. All of them are included in the saying of Allah the Exalted:[Al-Ma'idah 5:2] and in His saying: [Al-'Asr 103:1-3] The son must advise his father in a good manner and with gentle advice, as Allah the Glorious and Exalted said: [Luqman 31:15] The father must accept the truth, and the mother must accept the truth, and everyone must cooperate in goodness. Each one assists the other in goodness and advises him. The father must not be arrogant to the point of refusing to accept the truth from his son, even if he is young. The mother must also not be arrogant to the point of refusing to accept the truth from her son, whether male or female, if it aligns with the truth and evidence is presented for it. The son must not be arrogant toward his father or refuse to accept advice, nor toward his mother. Rather, he accepts the advice and strives to be dutiful to his parents and to have good conduct with them, [Luqman 31:14]. A person was advised regarding the father to be kind to him, for the father has a great right, whether male or female. Therefore, the children must care for being dutiful to their parents, care for being humble with them, have good conduct with them, and accept the truth from them. Likewise, the parents must not be arrogant toward the children, and they must accept the truth from the children whenever they are guided to it and its evidence is clarified. We ask Allah for success for everyone. Yes.
Your Eminence the Shaykh! The questioner asks: What is the role of the mother and father in addressing the deviation of youth? And is there a word for the parents regarding this very sensitive topic?
Answer:
In the name of Allah, and all praise is due to Allah. Yes, this is an advice for both the parents and the children, advice for everyone to cooperate in righteousness and piety. The father advises his son and instructs him in goodness, humility, the rectification of intention, and the care for knowledge. The son is humble toward his father, assists him in goodness, listens to him, and obeys his guidance and direction if it aligns with the truth. Cooperation is expected between the son and the father, and between the daughter and the mother, for all of them—parents and children, male and female—to cooperate in righteousness and piety. All of them are included in the saying of Allah the Exalted:
And cooperate in righteousness and piety
وَتَعَاوَنُوا عَلَى الْبِرِّ وَالتَّقْوَىٰ(1) By time, (2) Indeed, mankind is in loss, (3) Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and advised each other to patience.
وَالْعَصْرِ إِنَّ الْإِنسَانَ لَفِي خُسْرٍ إِلَّا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالْحَقِّ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالصَّبْرِbut accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness
وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًاBe grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.
أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُ
Source
قناة «فضيلة الشيخ ابن باز Alsheikh Binbaz»، 165 ما هو دور الوالدين في معالجة انحراف الشباب؟وما نصيحتكم لهم؟ للإمام ابن باز — youtube.com
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