Is it permissible to feel sadness, cry, and experience pain when a calamity strikes?
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Question:
May Allah reward you, Your Eminence, father. The questioner says: When a calamity befalls me, I enter into a struggle with myself. At one moment I praise Allah the Mighty and Majestic for what He has decreed and destined, and at another moment I wish it had not happened and I grieve over its occurrence. However, I do not display distress in front of others. So, will I receive reward for this calamity?
Answer:
Without a doubt, a person feels sad, cries, and is affected by a calamity; this does no harm. What is harmful is distress, wailing, slapping the cheeks, and tearing the clothes, which is the claim of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance (jahiliyyah). That is what is harmful. As for the pain, sadness, and crying that a person feels, he is not to be blamed for any of that. Yes.
May Allah reward you, Your Eminence, father. The questioner says: When a calamity befalls me, I enter into a struggle with myself. At one moment I praise Allah the Mighty and Majestic for what He has decreed and destined, and at another moment I wish it had not happened and I grieve over its occurrence. However, I do not display distress in front of others. So, will I receive reward for this calamity?
Answer:
Without a doubt, a person feels sad, cries, and is affected by a calamity; this does no harm. What is harmful is distress, wailing, slapping the cheeks, and tearing the clothes, which is the claim of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance (jahiliyyah). That is what is harmful. As for the pain, sadness, and crying that a person feels, he is not to be blamed for any of that. Yes.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، [1250- 4717] هل يجوز الحزن والبكاء والألم عند حصول المصيبة؟ - الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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