I complain of speaking about people in my heart; how can I get rid of this habit?
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Question:
I complain of speaking about people in my heart, for I say this one is stingy, that one is trustworthy, and a third is clean, and so on. How can I get rid of this habit so that I do not harm people, knowing that I do not speak of it as I have said? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
As for what the questioner mentioned, that something occurs to her regarding belittling people and their faults, this is due to a lack of self-control. It is due to having a bad opinion of the Muslims. It is not permissible for a Muslim to spread a bad opinion about his Muslim brothers unless something inappropriate becomes apparent in their behavior. Allah the Exalted said:[Al-Hujurat 49:12] Indeed, some suspicion is a sin. This is having a bad opinion. She should have a good opinion of her Muslim brothers and sisters and stay away from these bad suspicions, because the default for a Muslim man or woman is integrity and soundness. Yes.
I complain of speaking about people in my heart, for I say this one is stingy, that one is trustworthy, and a third is clean, and so on. How can I get rid of this habit so that I do not harm people, knowing that I do not speak of it as I have said? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
As for what the questioner mentioned, that something occurs to her regarding belittling people and their faults, this is due to a lack of self-control. It is due to having a bad opinion of the Muslims. It is not permissible for a Muslim to spread a bad opinion about his Muslim brothers unless something inappropriate becomes apparent in their behavior. Allah the Exalted said:
O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِّنَ الظَّنِّ
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، إنني أشكو من الكلام على الناس في قلبي فكيف أستطيع التخلص من هذه العادة؟ الشيخ صالح بن فوزان الفوزان — youtube.com
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