A girl who is often sad and crying, and rejects the suitors because they are not suitable, and has saddened her mother with her condition, so she seeks your advice?

The questioner:
May Allah reward you with good and do you good. One of the listening sisters sent you this message, Shaykh Salih. She says: The sender is from Riyadh, and she has a somewhat lengthy case. She says: In the name of Allah, the Most Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy. To the Honorable Shaykh Salih ibn Fawzan al-Fawzan, may Allah’s peace, mercy, and blessings be upon you. After that, I am a girl who is twenty-seven years old, and my problem is that I am constantly sad and crying, for a reason or without a reason. I always think about death, the Hereafter, the Reckoning and the reward, Paradise and Hellfire, and I fear Allah and His punishment, even though I have not committed a sin, praise be to Allah. And I, praise be to Allah, am diligent in performing the five daily prayers and other acts of worship. Currently, I am not thinking about marriage, nor do I desire it, but my mother gets angry with me because of that, and she says to me, “I want to see your children before I die.” Her words sadden me greatly, for I do not want to be distant from my mother. Several men have proposed to me, but I reject them because they are not suitable. Will Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) punish me for that? And if I am patient and seek reward from Allah, will He reward me for my patience? I ask your honor for guidance and advice, and may Allah reward you with good.

The Shaykh:
And upon you be peace, and Allah’s mercy and blessings. This questioner’s problem is one that many young men and women suffer from, and it is the problem of illusions. These are imaginary illnesses that accompany young men and women. So she should consult psychiatric doctors, perhaps she will find a cure. But before that, she should use the divine cure, which is greater. Yes, yes.
And that is seeking refuge from Satan and using the practice of reciting the prescribed invocations at the beginning of the morning and at the beginning of the evening, by reciting the Verse of the Throne, Surat al-Ikhlas, and the two chapters of seeking refuge (al-Mu’awwidhatayn), and repeating the recitation of Surat al-Ikhlas and the two chapters of seeking refuge three times, and supplicating that Allah heal her, and performing the prescribed seekings of refuge and reciting the Qur’an frequently, for this will remove these illusions from her, by the permission of Allah.
And the third matter is marriage. She should hasten to marriage and not object if a suitable man proposes to her, and suitability is according to her in every time.

The presenter:
We seek help from Allah. If a man who maintains the prayer and holds fast to his religion proposes to her, let her hasten to marry him, even if he has some deficiency or some sins. For obtaining a husband who is perfect in every aspect is impossible or rare to find. But she should choose the best of the best, and what her mother said is the truth; her mother is right in that.
For the girl has nothing but marriage, and hastening to marriage is due to the religious and worldly benefits in marriage, and it may be a cause, by the permission of Allah, for the removal of these illusions and these obsessions. So rely on Allah and proceed with marriage, while using the prescribed invocations I mentioned to you, and reciting the Qur’an frequently, and consulting doctors and psychiatrists, perhaps they will find a beneficial cure. For Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) did not send down a disease except that He sent down for it a cure, and some people know it and some people do not know it. And this is among the beneficial causes, by the permission of Allah. Yes. May Allah reward you with good and do you good.

The questioner:
It seems to me that I understood from you, Honorable Shaykh Salih, that perfection is difficult to attain in these days.

The Shaykh:
Yes, complete perfection, that a person be perfect in every way, this is difficult to attain. There must be deficiency, but it is a deficiency less than a deficiency,

The presenter:
Yes, yes.

The Shaykh:
So as long as the person holds fast to his religion and maintains the prayer, this is the foundation and the basis. And what happens of deficiency, perhaps it will be removed, by the permission of Allah, and that he will repent from it in the future. Yes.