What is the obligation of the wife of a man who commits a major sin?
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Question:
If Allah wills. A woman asks, saying: If there is a man who commits unlawful sexual intercourse or drinks intoxicants, and I am his wife, what is my role in that?
Answer:
If he commits zina, drinks intoxicants, opposes [you], or engages in other sins, and you do not offer him advice, warn him of the consequences of his bad deeds, and warn him of the causes of Allah’s anger using a good manner and kind words, while you are guided by the means [of guidance], then you will have a reward like his. I heard the saying of Allah the Exalted:[At-Tawbah 9:71]. From this, [it is known that] it is wrong. So, this is the mother of his wife, and the husband. The wife commands her husband to do what is right, and her father, her brother, and her son to do what is right, and forbids them from what is wrong, advising them. This fulfills the saying of the Glorious and Exalted: “And Allah has made you [able] to receive [guidance] through wisdom. I only say a good word and make it the best of it.” He commands men and women, the husband and the wife. So, you must forbid him from what Allah has forbidden, and advise him with the appropriate manner, the appropriate words, and gentleness, so that Allah may grant you that. Do not expose him, but call him to Allah and guide him to the heart. If he responds, and it is not possible for you to get rid of him, if you fear harm from him to yourself, your religion, and your children, [then seek divorce] through the court or through the mediation of the righteous to divorce, so that you are divorced and relieved of his evil. Mediation is better; mediation of the righteous without going to the court, so that the good in-laws reconcile between you, either by his repentance and leaving the sin, or by his divorcing you, so you are at peace from his evil. Yes. The sin is upon him if you advised him; the sin is upon him, but the reward is for you. Yes.
If Allah wills. A woman asks, saying: If there is a man who commits unlawful sexual intercourse or drinks intoxicants, and I am his wife, what is my role in that?
Answer:
If he commits zina, drinks intoxicants, opposes [you], or engages in other sins, and you do not offer him advice, warn him of the consequences of his bad deeds, and warn him of the causes of Allah’s anger using a good manner and kind words, while you are guided by the means [of guidance], then you will have a reward like his. I heard the saying of Allah the Exalted:
The believing men and believing women are allies of one another. They enjoin what is right
وَالْمُؤْمِنُونَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتُ بَعْضُهُمْ أَوْلِيَاءُ بَعْضٍ يَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ
Source
قناة «فضيلة الشيخ ابن باز Alsheikh Binbaz»، 019 ما الواجب على زوجة مرتكب الكبيرة؟ للإمام ابن باز — youtube.com
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