Does a son have to be dutiful to his mother if she practices sorcery, interferes in his life and his wife's life, and causes discord?
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The questioner:
May Allah reward you. This is a long message from one of the listeners. She says: I ask that my message be read in full and answered in full, because I am in dire need of this response. May Allah reward you for me and for the listeners with good. She made it an introduction followed by paragraphs. In her introduction, she says: I am a wife living with my husband in a calm and pleasant atmosphere in a house of our own, but I am subjected to harm from my husband's family, especially his mother. She interferes in every small and large matter between us and causes us problems. She is the one who commands and forbids in our lives. She says first: Is it the right of a husband's mother to interfere in the life of her son and his wife in ways not commanded by Allah and His Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), thereby ruining their lives?
The Shaykh:
There is no doubt that the mother has a right over her son, a right that is obligatory and certain. Likewise, the son's wife has a right from her husband that she should care for her mother-in-law and treat her well. This is part of the husband's right over his wife: that she does not mistreat either of his parents and that she treats them well. As for the mother being harsh in her rights and interfering in the marital affairs between the husband and wife, this is not permissible for her. However, if she commands her son and forbids him, and asks him for things that are permissible for her, there is no harm in that, provided that this does not disrupt the marital relationship or interfere between the husband and wife to ruin what is between them. Yes.
The questioner:
She says in the second paragraph: Does she have the right to run the lives of the husband and wife as she pleases, to the extent that she locks their separate house to force them to live in a house with many people, where she separates the marital bed and ruins the upbringing of their children?
The Shaykh:
We have referred to this. We said it is not the right of the mother to interfere between the husband and wife to ruin what is between them or to cause them hardship. This is not her right. She should repent to Allah the Mighty and Majestic. Yes.
The questioner:
She says: She practices sorcery, unfortunately. So should I obey her? Does she have authority over me to command and forbid?
The Shaykh:
If it is established that she practices sorcery, then the sorcerer is a disbeliever, and the punishment for apostasy must be carried out against him, and it is not permissible to obey him. This is a major crime: learning sorcery, teaching it, and practicing it.
The questioner:
Is her son required to be dutiful to her at the expense of his wife, especially since the wife supports him financially?
The Shaykh:
No. He may be dutiful. It is obligatory for him to be dutiful to his mother. But it is not required of the wife to give him from her money what he uses to be dutiful to his mother, except out of the goodness of her own heart, out of the goodness of her heart, and out of generosity, good conduct, and kindness. This is a good thing if so. But compulsion is not required of her. Yes.
The questioner:
In the last paragraphs of the question.
The Shaykh:
He provides for her from his own money. Yes.
May Allah reward you. This is a long message from one of the listeners. She says: I ask that my message be read in full and answered in full, because I am in dire need of this response. May Allah reward you for me and for the listeners with good. She made it an introduction followed by paragraphs. In her introduction, she says: I am a wife living with my husband in a calm and pleasant atmosphere in a house of our own, but I am subjected to harm from my husband's family, especially his mother. She interferes in every small and large matter between us and causes us problems. She is the one who commands and forbids in our lives. She says first: Is it the right of a husband's mother to interfere in the life of her son and his wife in ways not commanded by Allah and His Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), thereby ruining their lives?
The Shaykh:
There is no doubt that the mother has a right over her son, a right that is obligatory and certain. Likewise, the son's wife has a right from her husband that she should care for her mother-in-law and treat her well. This is part of the husband's right over his wife: that she does not mistreat either of his parents and that she treats them well. As for the mother being harsh in her rights and interfering in the marital affairs between the husband and wife, this is not permissible for her. However, if she commands her son and forbids him, and asks him for things that are permissible for her, there is no harm in that, provided that this does not disrupt the marital relationship or interfere between the husband and wife to ruin what is between them. Yes.
The questioner:
She says in the second paragraph: Does she have the right to run the lives of the husband and wife as she pleases, to the extent that she locks their separate house to force them to live in a house with many people, where she separates the marital bed and ruins the upbringing of their children?
The Shaykh:
We have referred to this. We said it is not the right of the mother to interfere between the husband and wife to ruin what is between them or to cause them hardship. This is not her right. She should repent to Allah the Mighty and Majestic. Yes.
The questioner:
She says: She practices sorcery, unfortunately. So should I obey her? Does she have authority over me to command and forbid?
The Shaykh:
If it is established that she practices sorcery, then the sorcerer is a disbeliever, and the punishment for apostasy must be carried out against him, and it is not permissible to obey him. This is a major crime: learning sorcery, teaching it, and practicing it.
The questioner:
Is her son required to be dutiful to her at the expense of his wife, especially since the wife supports him financially?
The Shaykh:
No. He may be dutiful. It is obligatory for him to be dutiful to his mother. But it is not required of the wife to give him from her money what he uses to be dutiful to his mother, except out of the goodness of her own heart, out of the goodness of her heart, and out of generosity, good conduct, and kindness. This is a good thing if so. But compulsion is not required of her. Yes.
The questioner:
In the last paragraphs of the question.
The Shaykh:
He provides for her from his own money. Yes.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 5314- هل يبر الابن أمه إن كانت تتعامل بالسحر وتتدخل في حياته وحياة زوجته وتسبب الخلافات؟ — youtube.com
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