The Ruling on Misar Marriage

Question:
He says: Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success, I am about to enter into a misyar marriage, so what do you advise me to do, and are there specific conditions?

Answer:
I advise you not to enter into a misyar marriage; rather, marry a regular marriage and take your wife with you to your home. When children come, they will stay in your home, and you and she will raise them. You will find comfort in her, and she will find comfort in you, and they will be a source of stability for you. As for marrying women [in this manner], this is what leads to marital interests being established, or rather, this is what leads to the loss of the children later on, and other things, and it leads to the loss of the wife. You will have no authority over her, and you will not know where she goes or how she spends her money. This is not this kind of marriage; this is merely a contract. As for the rulings of marriage, they are delayed. Like this Hamidiyyah language, this is never suitable. The wife is to be in her husband's home, and the children are to be in the father's home, and the husband is to be the guardian of his wife; he does not leave her [unattended]. He does not know where she goes or with whom. She becomes free to go whenever she wishes, and perhaps she will fall into matters that are not permissible because she is not accustomed to being controlled, and he does not know about her. So this is a matter that leads to many dangers. Is it permissible to raise the hands in supplication if the obligatory prayers are neglected? They want to strip the husband of his authority over his wife; that is what they want. To strip the husband of his authority over his wife, what results from that is the loss of the children? And it results in the loss of the husband's comfort with his wife and her comfort with him, and each of them becomes a source of comfort for the other. Yes.