The ruling on the condolence gathering held for three days in rest houses with feasts

Question:
He says: Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success, we have a custom regarding condolences, where the condolence is held for three days in a rest house, with the provision of feasts. What should I do in this situation? Do I go to this rest house, or do I limit myself to offering condolences by phone, or do I not offer condolences at all?

Answer:
By Allah, nowadays the death of the deceased has become an opportunity for eating. It has become an opportunity for eating; they rejoice in what has happened to them, with feasts every day, slaughtering, and spending money on pilgrims, as they say. This is not a condolence; this is a funeral and eating. As the noble Companion Jarir ibn 'Abd Allah said, we considered the preparation of food and gathering with the family of the deceased to be from hypocrisy. Expanding on this and renting rest houses is a matter that is not permissible. Offering condolences is that you console the bereaved by making a supplication for him on the phone, or by going to him, or if you meet him in the street, in the mosque, or at work, you console him without a gathering, without slaughtering, and without things and days. All of this is among the effects of . Yes.