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﴿ فَاسْأَلُوا أَهْلَ الذِّكْرِ إِن كُنتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ ﴾

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Is it permissible to talk between the engaged couple?

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Question:
This man asks: Is it permissible for a man to talk to his fiancée? To talk to his fiancée.

Answer:
There is nothing wrong with speech that contains no doubt, no joking, and is only for a need, such as asking her about something. However, joking and speech that contains submission in tone are not permissible, neither with a fiancée nor with anyone else. It is not permissible except with your wife, the one you have contracted marriage with. As for a woman you have not contracted marriage with, do not joke with her or speak to her in a way that leads to enjoyment. This is forbidden. Allah, Mighty and Majestic, says to the wives of our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him):
then do not be soft in speech [to men], lest he in whose heart is disease should covet, but speak with appropriate speech.فَلَا تَخْضَعْنَ بِالْقَوْلِ فَيَطْمَعَ الَّذِي فِي قَلْبِهِ مَرَضٌ وَقُلْنَ قَوْلًا مَّعْرُوفًا
[Al-Ahzab 33:32]
Speech for a need that does not stir desires or lust is permissible with a fiancée and with others. However, seclusion is more severe; it is not permissible for you to be alone with a fiancée unless you have contracted marriage with her. If you have contracted marriage with her, she is your wife, and you may talk to her and be alone with her because she is your wife. But before you contract marriage with her, the engagement does not permit you these things.
Source قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، هل يجوز الكلام بين المخطوبين؟ للشيخ الفوزان — youtube.com

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