What is the ruling on a wife who curses her husband and his sons within the hearing of his parents?
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Question:
What is the ruling on a wife who curses her husband and curses his sons within the hearing of his parents who live with him? Knowing that this hurts his parents, as you know, especially since they hear what she says. Please guide such a woman and direct her. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
It is not permissible for a Muslim to be a clogger, a foul-mouthed person, or a liar, but rather he should be a Muslim with good speech. Allah the Exalted said: "And speak to people with good words." So, good and gentle speech with all people is required. How much more so is speech with the husband? It is obligatory for the wife to address her husband with good words, and it is forbidden for her to address him with foul speech, and speech that precedes and insults, because this is not treating one another with kindness. Allah has commanded both spouses to treat the other with kindness, and among the ways of treating one another with kindness is making the speech pleasant. It was mentioned in the hadith that and from fasting, or as he (peace and blessings be upon him) said.
So, pleasant speech is required among Muslims in general, and among relatives in particular, and between spouses with each other in particular. Therefore, foul speech is not permissible. Allah the Exalted said:[Al-Ahzab 33:58]. May Allah reward you with good.
What is the ruling on a wife who curses her husband and curses his sons within the hearing of his parents who live with him? Knowing that this hurts his parents, as you know, especially since they hear what she says. Please guide such a woman and direct her. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
It is not permissible for a Muslim to be a clogger, a foul-mouthed person, or a liar, but rather he should be a Muslim with good speech. Allah the Exalted said: "And speak to people with good words." So, good and gentle speech with all people is required. How much more so is speech with the husband? It is obligatory for the wife to address her husband with good words, and it is forbidden for her to address him with foul speech, and speech that precedes and insults, because this is not treating one another with kindness. Allah has commanded both spouses to treat the other with kindness, and among the ways of treating one another with kindness is making the speech pleasant. It was mentioned in the hadith that
In Paradise there are rooms whose outer appearance is visible from their inner side and whose inner side is visible from their outer side. It was asked: For whom, O Messenger of Allah? He said: For those who speak kindly, feed people, and offer the salam, and pray at night.
في الجنة غرفا يرى ظاهرها من باطنها وباطنها من ظاهرها، قيل لمن يا رسول الله؟ قال لمن أطاب الكلام وأطعم الطعام وأخشى السلام وصلى بالليل،So, pleasant speech is required among Muslims in general, and among relatives in particular, and between spouses with each other in particular. Therefore, foul speech is not permissible. Allah the Exalted said:
And those who harm believing men and believing women for [something] other than what they have earned have certainly born upon themselves a slander and manifest sin.
وَالَّذِينَ يُؤْذُونَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتِ بِغَيْرِ مَا اكْتَسَبُوا فَقَدِ احْتَمَلُوا بُهْتَانًا وَإِثْمًا مُّبِينًا
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، ماحكم الزوجة التي تسب زوجها وأبناءه وعلى مسمع من والديه؟ الشيخ صالح بن فوزان الفوزان — youtube.com
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