Combining the concept that "the wife is a predestined portion" with the command to choose a righteous wife
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Question:
May Allah reward you, Honorable Shaykh. Our brother, the questioner 'Ayn Maim from Riyadh, says: I hope you do not neglect my question. We tell our brother 'Ayn Maim that we do not neglect any message in this program or in the following programs. He says: Your Eminence, Honorable Shaykh, some people say that marriage is a portion and a destiny predestined for a person, and that so-and-so is the wife with whom he will marry, and that a person in this life only chooses his portion. So how is the wife predestined for a person by the knowledge of Allah? Then Allah the Exalted commands us to make a good choice or to choose a righteous woman, as He said:[Al-Baqarah 2:221]. He also says: "And marry the unmarried among you and the righteous among your male slaves and female slaves. If they should be poor, Allah will enrich them from His bounty." And likewise in the hadith: Bulugh al-Maram 8:5 Please inform us in light of my question?
Answer:
Yes, Allah (Mighty and Majestic) predestined the destinies and decreed the decree that must occur, and He wrote that in the Preserved Tablet. However, He also commanded us to take the means, taking the beneficial means such as seeking provision, choosing a righteous wife, raising children, and other beneficial means. We do not rely solely on the divine decree and destiny because it is a hidden matter, and it is from the knowledge of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He). But we are commanded to do the causes, and to choose a righteous wife connected to the attributes mentioned by the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). This is part of doing the causes. There is no contradiction between doing the causes and believing in the divine decree and destiny. Yes.
May Allah reward you, Honorable Shaykh. Our brother, the questioner 'Ayn Maim from Riyadh, says: I hope you do not neglect my question. We tell our brother 'Ayn Maim that we do not neglect any message in this program or in the following programs. He says: Your Eminence, Honorable Shaykh, some people say that marriage is a portion and a destiny predestined for a person, and that so-and-so is the wife with whom he will marry, and that a person in this life only chooses his portion. So how is the wife predestined for a person by the knowledge of Allah? Then Allah the Exalted commands us to make a good choice or to choose a righteous woman, as He said:
And a believing slave woman is better than a polytheist, even though she might please you.
وَلَأَمَةٌ مُّؤْمِنَةٌ خَيْرٌ مِّن مُّشْرِكَةٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَتْكُمْA woman is married for four qualities, for her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion: so get the religious one and prosper.
تنكح المرأة لأربع لمالها ولحسبها ونسبها ولجمالها ولدينها فاضطر بذات الدين تربت يداكAnswer:
Yes, Allah (Mighty and Majestic) predestined the destinies and decreed the decree that must occur, and He wrote that in the Preserved Tablet. However, He also commanded us to take the means, taking the beneficial means such as seeking provision, choosing a righteous wife, raising children, and other beneficial means. We do not rely solely on the divine decree and destiny because it is a hidden matter, and it is from the knowledge of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He). But we are commanded to do the causes, and to choose a righteous wife connected to the attributes mentioned by the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). This is part of doing the causes. There is no contradiction between doing the causes and believing in the divine decree and destiny. Yes.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 6310- الجمع بين كون "الزوجة نصيب مقدر" وبين الأمر باختيار الزوجة الصالحة - الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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