Refusing a religious suitor because he is not from the same tribe
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The questioner:
Honorable Shaykh, we said that the Arab tribes are related to one another. The question is that there are categories we cannot deal with, such as being from the same tribe or not. Is it permissible to reject a religious man who is not from our tribe because of the talk and boycott we face? And I ask you, Honorable Shaykh, to explain the interpretation of his saying (peace and blessings be upon him): “When there comes to you a man whose religion and trustworthiness you are pleased with, marry your daughter to him”[Al-Anfal 8:73].
The Shaykh:
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The questioner:
and great corruption.
The Shaykh:
Yes, and as we said, the Muslims, praise be to Allah, are sufficient for one another. But in terms of lineage, if this one is from the same tribe and that one is not, the contract is valid, it is valid, but the option remains with the bride if she is not pleased, or with one of her guardians if he is not pleased. He has the right to annul it. So it is a valid contract, but it is based on permissibility to avert harm and fitnah (trial, discord or temptation). The result is that if fitnah occurs, there is misunderstanding and severance of ties, so such matters should be avoided.
Because seeking reconciliation and reform among people, and seeking agreement and harmony, and averting harms, takes precedence over seeking benefits. So if marrying a non-tribal man to a tribal woman leads to harms, fitnah, and evils, leaving it is better to avoid it. We do not say it is invalid; it is valid, but leaving it is better to avoid fitnah. There are many women, praise be to Allah, there are many women. One should marry someone whose marriage does not lead to fitnah. Yes.
Honorable Shaykh, we said that the Arab tribes are related to one another. The question is that there are categories we cannot deal with, such as being from the same tribe or not. Is it permissible to reject a religious man who is not from our tribe because of the talk and boycott we face? And I ask you, Honorable Shaykh, to explain the interpretation of his saying (peace and blessings be upon him): “When there comes to you a man whose religion and trustworthiness you are pleased with, marry your daughter to him”
If you do not do so, there will be fitnah on earth and
إِلَّا تَفْعَلُوهُ تَكُن فِتْنَةٌ فِي الْأَرْضِ وَفَسَادٌThe Shaykh:
large.
The questioner:
and great corruption.
The Shaykh:
Yes, and as we said, the Muslims, praise be to Allah, are sufficient for one another. But in terms of lineage, if this one is from the same tribe and that one is not, the contract is valid, it is valid, but the option remains with the bride if she is not pleased, or with one of her guardians if he is not pleased. He has the right to annul it. So it is a valid contract, but it is based on permissibility to avert harm and fitnah (trial, discord or temptation). The result is that if fitnah occurs, there is misunderstanding and severance of ties, so such matters should be avoided.
Because seeking reconciliation and reform among people, and seeking agreement and harmony, and averting harms, takes precedence over seeking benefits. So if marrying a non-tribal man to a tribal woman leads to harms, fitnah, and evils, leaving it is better to avoid it. We do not say it is invalid; it is valid, but leaving it is better to avoid fitnah. There are many women, praise be to Allah, there are many women. One should marry someone whose marriage does not lead to fitnah. Yes.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 47 من 89|شرح العدة في شرح العمدة|كتاب النكاح|باب ولاية النكاح|صالح الفوزان|الفقه|كبار العلماء — youtube.com (1:05:01)
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