What advice do you give her to raise her children and be patient with her bad husband?

Question:
I am a woman with seven daughters and a son. By the grace of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He), I am raising them with an Islamic upbringing seeking the pleasure of Allah. My husband is irritable, and his tongue is sharp; he shows no mercy and does not fear Allah. He is not affected by knowledge or admonition, and he talks a lot. Every success he achieves, he attributes to his own intelligence and strength. Every failure, he blames the rain. When he sees me and the daughters praying, reciting the morning adhkar, or listening to a religious program, we become the target of his mockery. I am patient with him for the sake of Allah, for the reward of the patient, hoping for his reform, and fearing for the loss of the children. For the past fifteen years, my husband’s sister has become his wife, which increased his hatred toward me and my family. He has gone so far as to cut off family ties and prevent the children from seeing us. This situation continues, and all of this is a description of her husband and his bad state, as mentioned. She asks for your guidance so that she can remain steadfast in this situation to raise her daughters. May Allah reward you with good.

Answer:
This is one of the marital problems for which we have no definitive solution, but what can be done is that she continues to raise her children on goodness, continues to listen to the audio programs and benefit from them, and continues to advise her husband, advise him, and encourage him, perhaps Allah will guide him. She is being rewarded for this patience and this struggle. This husband must fear Allah the Exalted and leave the bad character that his wife mentioned about him, because Allah the Exalted commanded good treatment of spouses. He said: , He said: . He is advised to have good character and to treat his wife with kindness, and to leave these bad traits that the questioner mentioned. The most serious of them is his weak faith, and that he believes that the success he has achieved is due to his own effort, power, and strength, and that the failure he has suffered is due to his own effort and the work of other people, believing that they are the ones who caused it. This is due to weak faith or a lack of faith, because all matters are in the hand of Allah the Exalted, all of it is from Allah. So one must rely on Allah the Exalted and depend on Allah. It is not permissible for a person to be proud of himself, his power, and his strength, for this did not benefit Qarun , who thought that the wealth he obtained was due to his own effort and denied the favor of Allah the Exalted. So what was the outcome? The outcome was as Allah the Exalted said: Who will help him other than Allah? And he was not among those who were helped. Rather, the one who thinks that if he obtains good, he says, "This is mine," meaning that he deserves it and that he earned it, and that it is not the favor of Allah the Exalted upon him, and does not attribute blessings to Allah the Exalted, and does not believe that misfortunes are calamities and punishments from Allah the Exalted, but rather attributes them to creation, this is a negation of faith in Allah the Mighty and Majestic. And this means a negation of faith in divine decree and destiny. Faith in divine decree and destiny is a pillar of faith. So this man must repent to Allah the Exalted. May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.