Is it permissible for a Muslim woman to kiss the hands of her parents if they do not pray, for example on the day of Eid?
Machine translationRead the Arabic original
The questioner:
Is it permissible for a Muslim woman to kiss the hands of her parents even if they do not pray, for example on the day of Eid?
The Shaykh:
If they do not pray, the matter is very serious. Deliberately abandoning the prayer is disbelief in Allah, as stated in the hadiths. If the one who abandons the prayer does not consider it obligatory, this is disbelief that expels one from the religion, by the consensus of the scholars. If he considers it obligatory but is lazy about it, this is a matter of scholarly disagreement, and the correct view is that he is like the first case, i.e., a disbeliever with major shirk (associating partners with Allah), based on the evidence from the Book and the Sunnah regarding the disbelief of the one who abandons the prayer in general. This is because one does not abandon it and persist in abandoning it unless he is one who denies its obligation; that is, if he considered it obligatory, he would not have abandoned it. And if we rule that he is a disbeliever and he does not accept advice and does not accept...
Enjoining good and forbidding evil, and if he persists in abandoning the prayer, then he must be boycotted, based on the saying of Allah the Exalted:[Al-Mujadila 58:22] Therefore, it is not permissible for a Muslim to love him, whether for his children or for anyone else, as long as he is in a state of hostility toward Allah and His Messenger. However, dutifulness to a parent does not cease even in the case of disbelief. The saying of the Exalted and Majestic: [Luqman 31:14-15] and treat them with kindness, and what [Luqman 31:15], means that one should be dutiful to his parents even if they are disbelievers, in the sense that he is kind to them and spends on them. As for love in the heart, he does not love them with his heart, but he is kind to them through spending on them and fulfilling their needs.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good, and may Allah reward you. If kissing the hand on the day of Eid specifically, what is the ruling regarding the prayer?
The Shaykh:
If this is out of love, then it is not permissible, because Allah, Glorified and Exalted, says:[Al-Mujadila 58:22]. But if he initiates with the salam, then he returns the salam to him. Yes.
The questioner:
If the parents, for example, these people, do not hear the adhan and do not pray.
The Shaykh:
Yes, if a disbeliever initiates the salam to a Muslim, then the Muslim returns it to him. Good.
The questioner:
And does the son initiate the salam to these two parents or not?
The Shaykh:
If he hopes that through his salam to them and his visiting them, they will accept the advice and it will have an effect on them, yes, he initiates the salam to them. But if they do not accept the advice and insist on abandoning the prayer and on opposing Allah and His Messenger, he does not initiate the salam to them. As for the saying of Ibrahim (peace be upon him):[Maryam 19:47], this is not a salam of greeting,
The presenter:
Yes.
The Shaykh:
but rather a salam of separation, like the saying of Allah the Exalted:[Al-Qasas 28:55]. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
The Shaykh:
The Exalted:[Al-Furqan 25:63] This is a salam of sharing. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good.
Is it permissible for a Muslim woman to kiss the hands of her parents even if they do not pray, for example on the day of Eid?
The Shaykh:
If they do not pray, the matter is very serious. Deliberately abandoning the prayer is disbelief in Allah, as stated in the hadiths. If the one who abandons the prayer does not consider it obligatory, this is disbelief that expels one from the religion, by the consensus of the scholars. If he considers it obligatory but is lazy about it, this is a matter of scholarly disagreement, and the correct view is that he is like the first case, i.e., a disbeliever with major shirk (associating partners with Allah), based on the evidence from the Book and the Sunnah regarding the disbelief of the one who abandons the prayer in general. This is because one does not abandon it and persist in abandoning it unless he is one who denies its obligation; that is, if he considered it obligatory, he would not have abandoned it. And if we rule that he is a disbeliever and he does not accept advice and does not accept...
Enjoining good and forbidding evil, and if he persists in abandoning the prayer, then he must be boycotted, based on the saying of Allah the Exalted:
You will not find a people who believe in Allah and the Last Day having affection for those who oppose Allah and His Messenger, even if they were their fathers or their sons or their brothers or their kindred
لَّا تَجِدُ قَوْمًا يُؤْمِنُونَ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ يُوَادُّونَ مَنْ حَادَّ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَلَوْ كَانُوا آبَاءَهُمْ أَوْ أَبْنَاءَهُمْ أَوْ إِخْوَانَهُمْ أَوْ عَشِيرَتَهُمْ(14) And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination. (15) But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness and follow the way of those who turn back to Me [in repentance]. Then to Me will be your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do.
وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْنًا عَلَىٰ وَهْنٍ وَفِصَالُهُ فِي عَامَيْنِ أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُ وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰ أَن تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَاin [this] world with appropriate kindness and follow the way of those who turn back to Me
فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا وَاتَّبِعْ سَبِيلَ مَنْ أَنَابَ إِلَيَّThe presenter:
May Allah reward you with good, and may Allah reward you. If kissing the hand on the day of Eid specifically, what is the ruling regarding the prayer?
The Shaykh:
If this is out of love, then it is not permissible, because Allah, Glorified and Exalted, says:
You will not find a people who believe in Allah and the Last Day having affection for those who oppose Allah and His Messenger
لَّا تَجِدُ قَوْمًا يُؤْمِنُونَ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ يُوَادُّونَ مَنْ حَادَّ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُThe questioner:
If the parents, for example, these people, do not hear the adhan and do not pray.
The Shaykh:
Yes, if a disbeliever initiates the salam to a Muslim, then the Muslim returns it to him. Good.
The questioner:
And does the son initiate the salam to these two parents or not?
The Shaykh:
If he hopes that through his salam to them and his visiting them, they will accept the advice and it will have an effect on them, yes, he initiates the salam to them. But if they do not accept the advice and insist on abandoning the prayer and on opposing Allah and His Messenger, he does not initiate the salam to them. As for the saying of Ibrahim (peace be upon him):
Peace will be upon you. I will ask forgiveness for you of my Lord
سَلَامٌ عَلَيْكَ سَأَسْتَغْفِرُ لَكَ رَبِّيThe presenter:
Yes.
The Shaykh:
but rather a salam of separation, like the saying of Allah the Exalted:
Peace will be upon you; we seek not the ignorant."
سَلَامٌ عَلَيْكُمْ لَا نَبْتَغِي الْجَاهِلِينَThe presenter:
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
The Shaykh:
The Exalted:
and when the ignorant address them [harshly], they say [words of] peace,
وَإِذَا خَاطَبَهُمُ الْجَاهِلُونَ قَالُوا سَلَامًاThe presenter:
May Allah reward you with good.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، هل يجوز للمسلمة تقبيل يدي الوالدين وإن كانا لا يصليان وذلك في يوم العيد مثلاً؟ الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
The Arabic text is a machine transcription of the audio recording.