The obligation of one who has cut off ties with his parents on the grounds that his father harmed him
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Question:
May Allah reward you. This is another questioner who says: Honorable Shaykh, I have cut off ties with my parents for nearly ten years for several reasons, including the fact that my father harmed me at the beginning of my life, and also my children and my wealth. He says the dispute continued with me for these years, and now that I have reached this age, I want to repair what I have missed with my father and mother. What are the ways to return to the truth in this matter?
Answer:
There is no doubt that the right of the parents is great; it comes after the right of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) in the second position. Allah the Exalted said:[An-Nisa 4:36] Your Lord has decreed [Yusuf 12:40] and to be kind to the parents. And He (Glorified and Exalted is He) said: [Al-Isra 17:23] meaning He decreed and commanded that Allah alone be worshipped and that one be kind to the parents.
What the questioner mentioned about there being a long period of severance between him and his father because the father mistreated him, this is undoubtedly a great error and undutifulness to parents. Undutifulness to a parent is among the major sins. So he must repent to Allah (Mighty and Majestic). If his father is alive, he goes to him, makes peace with him, asks for his forgiveness, and treats him well. And whoever repents, Allah accepts his repentance. If his father forgives him, Allah will forgive him. But if his father is dead, he must repent to Allah and seek forgiveness, and he must be kind to his father through supplication, seeking forgiveness, and giving charity on his behalf. He should perform Hajj and 'Umrah and be kind to his relatives and children. He should be kind to his father's friends. This is part of dutifulness. Also, if his father had a debt, he must pay it off on his behalf and clear his conscience. Also, if his father left a bequest, he must carry it out in the prescribed manner, in which there is reward and recompense. All of these are types of dutifulness to a parent. Yes.
May Allah reward you. This is another questioner who says: Honorable Shaykh, I have cut off ties with my parents for nearly ten years for several reasons, including the fact that my father harmed me at the beginning of my life, and also my children and my wealth. He says the dispute continued with me for these years, and now that I have reached this age, I want to repair what I have missed with my father and mother. What are the ways to return to the truth in this matter?
Answer:
There is no doubt that the right of the parents is great; it comes after the right of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) in the second position. Allah the Exalted said:
Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good
وَاعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًاthat you worship not except Him
أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُAnd your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment.
وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًاWhat the questioner mentioned about there being a long period of severance between him and his father because the father mistreated him, this is undoubtedly a great error and undutifulness to parents. Undutifulness to a parent is among the major sins. So he must repent to Allah (Mighty and Majestic). If his father is alive, he goes to him, makes peace with him, asks for his forgiveness, and treats him well. And whoever repents, Allah accepts his repentance. If his father forgives him, Allah will forgive him. But if his father is dead, he must repent to Allah and seek forgiveness, and he must be kind to his father through supplication, seeking forgiveness, and giving charity on his behalf. He should perform Hajj and 'Umrah and be kind to his relatives and children. He should be kind to his father's friends. This is part of dutifulness. Also, if his father had a debt, he must pay it off on his behalf and clear his conscience. Also, if his father left a bequest, he must carry it out in the prescribed manner, in which there is reward and recompense. All of these are types of dutifulness to a parent. Yes.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 6927- الواجب على من قطع بينه وبين والديه بحجة أن والده أضر به - الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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