The ruling on a wife stipulating to her husband a share of her salary
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The questioner : Did you hear the question? A man marries a woman who is a teacher. She stipulates that she will continue teaching, and he agrees on the condition that he gets half of her salary. Is this permissible or not?
The Shaykh : Is it permissible? Of course, if she agrees, it is permissible if she agrees, because by teaching she will deprive them of some enjoyment, so what she gives from the salary is compensation for this enjoyment that she has deprived him of.
The questioner : It is unbecoming to take from his wife’s money. And he says, “I and my wife, there is no accounting between us.”
The Shaykh : No, no, the custom now is that they stipulate this. The custom now is that they stipulate this. He says, “I do not want you to be able to teach unless you give me half the salary.” And sometimes she says, “I will not marry you unless you allow me to teach and the entire salary is mine.” It is hers, meaning, as long as the matter is in her hand, praise be to Allah.
The questioner : Shaykh, take it from his wealth, and this is not a disgrace in his manliness. I mean, how do you take from his wealth, from his wife’s wealth, when you are rich and do not need it?
The Shaykh : Absolutely, there is nothing wrong. I know some women who love their husbands; if he says to her, “Remove the earring from your ear,” she is happy and says, “What is it? I am willing to buy my own earring with this.” People differ here. One woman, if she gives her husband a little, even if she buys him bread one day, she goes to the gatherings and says, “I am the one who insisted on it.” Do not approach her or take anything from her, ever. Another is the opposite; if he takes a word from her hand, she does not care and becomes pleased with it and does not tell anyone. In any case, these are matters that return to the state of a person with his family.
The questioner : What? Did the divorce occur? Does he have the right?
The Shaykh : No, no.
The questioner : But does he follow her after the divorce and say, “I want half the salary”? Or not? That is the problem, is it not?
The Shaykh : No. He stipulated it with her. We tell her, “You are no longer under his protection now.”
The Shaykh : Is it permissible? Of course, if she agrees, it is permissible if she agrees, because by teaching she will deprive them of some enjoyment, so what she gives from the salary is compensation for this enjoyment that she has deprived him of.
The questioner : It is unbecoming to take from his wife’s money. And he says, “I and my wife, there is no accounting between us.”
The Shaykh : No, no, the custom now is that they stipulate this. The custom now is that they stipulate this. He says, “I do not want you to be able to teach unless you give me half the salary.” And sometimes she says, “I will not marry you unless you allow me to teach and the entire salary is mine.” It is hers, meaning, as long as the matter is in her hand, praise be to Allah.
The questioner : Shaykh, take it from his wealth, and this is not a disgrace in his manliness. I mean, how do you take from his wealth, from his wife’s wealth, when you are rich and do not need it?
The Shaykh : Absolutely, there is nothing wrong. I know some women who love their husbands; if he says to her, “Remove the earring from your ear,” she is happy and says, “What is it? I am willing to buy my own earring with this.” People differ here. One woman, if she gives her husband a little, even if she buys him bread one day, she goes to the gatherings and says, “I am the one who insisted on it.” Do not approach her or take anything from her, ever. Another is the opposite; if he takes a word from her hand, she does not care and becomes pleased with it and does not tell anyone. In any case, these are matters that return to the state of a person with his family.
The questioner : What? Did the divorce occur? Does he have the right?
The Shaykh : No, no.
The questioner : But does he follow her after the divorce and say, “I want half the salary”? Or not? That is the problem, is it not?
The Shaykh : No. He stipulated it with her. We tell her, “You are no longer under his protection now.”
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قناة «فضيلة الشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين»، 1891 - 4600 هل يجوز للزوج أن يشترط أخذ جزء من راتب زوجته وهل لها أن تشترط في عدم أخذه...؟ ابن عثيمين — youtube.com
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