What is the ruling on guiding the deceased after burial, and does the deceased hear the salam of those who visit him?

Question : Abdullah, the Shaykh, meaning, may Allah have mercy on him, one of the contemporary exegetes, in his statement regarding "you do not hear the dead." There is a lot of speech by Ibn al-Qayyim. I was following him as he was reading it, the one inserted in the radio broadcast. He mentioned that it is recommended for the deceased to accept them, not that they recommend Allah. They say: If someone comes to you with benefits and asks you, say, "There is no god but Allah, and Muhammad is the Prophet of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him)." And they mentioned that if the visitor visits, he hears it when he greets him, that he hears it. So, is this statement...

Answer : As for guiding the deceased after burial, this is not correct, because there is only the hadith of Abu Umamah in it, and it is weak. Guiding is not prescribed; rather, seeking forgiveness is prescribed. You stand at the grave after burial and say, "O Allah, forgive him, O Allah, forgive him, O Allah, forgive him, O Allah, make him firm, O Allah, make him firm, O Allah, make him firm," and then you leave. Because the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), when he made supplication, he did so three times. As for guiding him, this is not correct. As for whether the deceased hears or does not hear, it is reported that when his companions leave him, he hears the sound of their sandals. It is also reported that when someone he knows greets him, Allah returns his spirit to him, and he returns the greeting.
The scholars are between two extremes and a middle ground in this matter. Some denied the hearing of the dead absolutely, except for what is reported, such as the hearing of the killed Quraysh at Badr, and the hearing of the man when his companions leave him, hearing the sound of their sandals. They said, "Let us restrict ourselves to what is reported only," and they weakened the hadith in Abu Dawud, which Ibn 'Abd al-Barr said is authentic, that when a man comes to a grave he knows and greets him, Allah returns his spirit to him and he returns the greeting.
Some of the scholars exaggerated in this matter. They said that if two men sit by the grave and talk about something, the believers hear them.
And they made him hear everything, and this is also an exaggeration. The correct view is that he hears the address directed to him. We give the brothers the tracing of the hadiths,