The people are between negligence and excess regarding the waiting period ('iddah); some are strict, while others are negligent. Perhaps you have a word to say, may Allah preserve you?
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Question:
Shaykh Salih, the people are between negligence and excess regarding the waiting period ('iddah). Some are strict with the woman in 'iddah in a way that draws attention, and others are negligent in a way that also draws attention. Perhaps you have a word to say, may Allah preserve you?
Answer:
The cause of this is one of two things: either ignorance of the legal ruling, and ignorance is removed by learning it by asking the people of knowledge; or the cause is a lack of concern and a lack of adherence to the legal rulings, and this is not permissible for a Muslim. Allah has specified the 'iddah in His Book in His saying, the Exalted:[Al-Baqarah 2:234].
[Al-Baqarah 2:234] And by His saying, the Exalted: [At-Talaq 65:4] And by what the Sunnah has clarified regarding the obligation of iddah (mourning) for the widow for the duration of the waiting period. Iddah is abstaining from anything that invites to intercourse with her or desires looking at her, such as perfume and adornment, and the like. She must avoid adornment in its two categories: adornment of jewelry, and adornment of the body, such as dyes, physical enhancements, henna, and the like. She must avoid perfume in all its types; she does not perfume herself, nor does she use anything containing perfume, such as oils and the like. She does not wear clothes of adornment, but rather she wears clothes that have no adornment. She does not leave the house in which her husband died except for a need; she goes out for her need during the day, not at night. If she has no need, she remains in the house night and day. As for what some of the common people commit to, such as things that have no basis in the Shari'ah, like not going up to the roof, not going out to the house's courtyard, not speaking on the telephone, not sitting with people, not looking at the grave, and so on, these have no basis in the Shari'ah, and they are customs for which Allah
Shaykh Salih, the people are between negligence and excess regarding the waiting period ('iddah). Some are strict with the woman in 'iddah in a way that draws attention, and others are negligent in a way that also draws attention. Perhaps you have a word to say, may Allah preserve you?
Answer:
The cause of this is one of two things: either ignorance of the legal ruling, and ignorance is removed by learning it by asking the people of knowledge; or the cause is a lack of concern and a lack of adherence to the legal rulings, and this is not permissible for a Muslim. Allah has specified the 'iddah in His Book in His saying, the Exalted:
And those who are taken in death among you and leave wives behind - they, [the wives, shall] wait four months and ten [days]. And when they have fulfilled their term, then there is no blame upon you for what they do with themselves in an acceptable manner
وَالَّذِينَ يُتَوَفَّوْنَ مِنكُمْ وَيَذَرُونَ أَزْوَاجًا يَتَرَبَّصْنَ بِأَنفُسِهِنَّ أَرْبَعَةَ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا فَإِذَا بَلَغْنَ أَجَلَهُنَّ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِيمَا فَعَلْنَ فِي أَنفُسِهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِAnd Allah is [fully] Acquainted with what you do.
وَاللَّهُ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ خَبِيرٌAnd for those who are pregnant, their term is until they give birth
وَأُولَاتُ الْأَحْمَالِ أَجَلُهُنَّ أَن يَضَعْنَ حَمْلَهُنَّ
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، الناس بين تفريط وإفراط في موضوع العدة، فبعض الناس يشدد، والبعض الآخر يفرط، لعل لكم كلمة يحفظكم الله؟ — youtube.com
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