The Responsibility of Guardians in Marrying Off Their Daughters
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The questioner:
May Allah reward you with good and do you well. We are trying, as much as possible, Honorable Shaykh Salih, to gather the various aspects of this topic. Do you have a word for the guardians regarding this topic as well?
The Shaykh:
The guardians are those whom Allah has entrusted with the care of women. The guardians of women are those whom Allah has entrusted with their care. Now, Allah the Exalted said:[An-Nisa 4:34] The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 212 Now, by Allah, the guardians of women are entrusted with looking after their interests, disciplining them, and obliging them to observe the Islamic etiquettes. Likewise, Allah has entrusted them with choosing suitable husbands for them, as far as possible.
The presenter:
Good, good.
The Shaykh:
And they should not treat the girl under their guardianship as merchandise over which they have control. If she is employed, he delays her marriage in order to exploit her job, or he delays her marriage in order to exaggerate her mahr (bridal gift) and obtain a larger mahr, or similar obstacles that have blocked, or nearly blocked, the path to marriage. Yes. Or what some tribes do by restricting women to marriage only with specific individuals from their tribe. This is injustice to the woman. A woman may marry someone from her tribe or from outside her tribe,
The presenter:
Good, good.
The Shaykh:
and she is not to be married except by her own choice and consent.
The presenter:
Good, good.
The Shaykh:
As the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) ordered that she be consulted when she is married, because she is a party to the matter,
The presenter:
Yes.
The Shaykh:
so her opinion must be taken, unless she has no opinion.
The presenter:
And they are not asking for it.
The Shaykh:
Or she does not know her own interests.
The presenter:
Mm.
The Shaykh:
So her guardian looks after her interests. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
May Allah reward you with good and do you well. We are trying, as much as possible, Honorable Shaykh Salih, to gather the various aspects of this topic. Do you have a word for the guardians regarding this topic as well?
The Shaykh:
The guardians are those whom Allah has entrusted with the care of women. The guardians of women are those whom Allah has entrusted with their care. Now, Allah the Exalted said:
Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other
الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍAll of you are shepherds and each of you is responsible for his flock
كلكم راع وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيتهThe presenter:
Good, good.
The Shaykh:
And they should not treat the girl under their guardianship as merchandise over which they have control. If she is employed, he delays her marriage in order to exploit her job, or he delays her marriage in order to exaggerate her mahr (bridal gift) and obtain a larger mahr, or similar obstacles that have blocked, or nearly blocked, the path to marriage. Yes. Or what some tribes do by restricting women to marriage only with specific individuals from their tribe. This is injustice to the woman. A woman may marry someone from her tribe or from outside her tribe,
The presenter:
Good, good.
The Shaykh:
and she is not to be married except by her own choice and consent.
The presenter:
Good, good.
The Shaykh:
As the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) ordered that she be consulted when she is married, because she is a party to the matter,
The presenter:
Yes.
The Shaykh:
so her opinion must be taken, unless she has no opinion.
The presenter:
And they are not asking for it.
The Shaykh:
Or she does not know her own interests.
The presenter:
Mm.
The Shaykh:
So her guardian looks after her interests. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، مسئولية أولياء الأمور في تزويج بناتهم – الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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