Treating Anger and How to Control It
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Question:
He says: I try hard to avoid falling into disputes with relatives or friends, but when a dispute does occur, I get very angry. I do not like meeting the person, nor even speaking with him, even if he is one of the closest relatives, whether a brother, a cousin, or an uncle. What should I do? And is there a sin on me because of that? May Allah reward you with good. Anger.
Answer:
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade it, as he (peace and blessings be upon him) said to the man whoMusannaf Ibn Abi Shaybah 34:20 repeated it to him many times, and the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "Do not get angry." Anger is from Satan, and it has a cure, which is seeking refuge in Allah from Satan. Allah the Exalted said: [Al-A'raf 7:200] Indeed, He is Hearing, Knowing. When the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) saw two men cursing each other until one of them’s neck veins swelled with anger, he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Mishkat al-Masabih 2418 So the anger left him.
So the Muslim should repel anger by seeking refuge in Allah from the accursed one. He should also repel anger by restraining himself from taking revenge while angry, and from [acting on] pleasure while angry.
He (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sahih Muslim 2609a Anger is a human trait present in every person; everyone gets angry. But a person must treat anger, not react to it, and not carry out what he desires of revenge while angry. Rather, he must hold himself back, restrain his tongue and hand from revenge while angry, and be patient and seek refuge in Allah from the accursed Satan. There are also other things that treat anger, such as wudu (ablution), because anger is from Satan, and wudu, and water extinguishes fire. So if a person performs wudu, this removes the anger from him by the permission of Allah. Also, if he is standing, he should sit; if he is sitting, he should lie down, and thus change his state so that he can control himself and force Satan back within himself. May Allah reward you with good, and may He reward you.
He says: I try hard to avoid falling into disputes with relatives or friends, but when a dispute does occur, I get very angry. I do not like meeting the person, nor even speaking with him, even if he is one of the closest relatives, whether a brother, a cousin, or an uncle. What should I do? And is there a sin on me because of that? May Allah reward you with good. Anger.
Answer:
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade it, as he (peace and blessings be upon him) said to the man who
He said to him: "Advise me." He said: "Do not get angry."
قال له أوصني قال لا تغضبAnd if an evil suggestion comes to you from Satan, then seek refuge in Allah
وَإِمَّا يَنزَغَنَّكَ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ نَزْغٌ فَاسْتَعِذْ بِاللَّهِhe knew a phrase by repeating which the man could get rid of his angry feelings: “I seek refuge in God from that accursed devil.”
إني لا أعلم كَلِمَةً لَوْ قَالَهَا لَذَهَبَ عَنْهُ مَا يَجِدُ أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ، فقالها الرجلSo the Muslim should repel anger by seeking refuge in Allah from the accursed one. He should also repel anger by restraining himself from taking revenge while angry, and from [acting on] pleasure while angry.
He (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
The strong-man is not one who wrestles well but the strong man is one who controls himself when he is in a fit of rage.
ليس الشديد بالصرعة، إنما الشديد الذي يملك نفسه عند الغضب،
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، يقول إذا وقع خلاف بينه وبين أحد أقاربه أو أصدقائه فإنه يغضب كثيراً ولا يحب لقاء ذلك الشخص ولا...؟ — youtube.com
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