What is the ruling on sitting in a gathering that includes backbiting and disparaging people?
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Question:
After this, we move on to a message from one of the brothers who says: I am a young man in my twenties. My friends always visit me at my workplace. Some of them always talk about the faults and bad behavior of others. We always engage in backbiting about them and try to prevent some of them from dealing with them. Is this forbidden for us? Or what is the advice I hear from our honorable guide on this program?
Answer:
Yes, backbiting and talebearing are among the major sins. As for backbiting, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sunan Abi Dawud 4874Sahih (Al-Albani). Therefore, speaking about a person with his blameworthy characteristics in his absence is not permissible if this falls under the category of backbiting. Allah the Exalted said: [Al-Hujurat 49:12]. When the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) explained the meaning of backbiting, because he mentioned that it is mentioning your brother with what he dislikes, one of the Companions said: "What do you say if my brother has what I am describing?" He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Sunan Abi Dawud 4874Sahih (Al-Albani). Both backbiting and slander are among the most severe prohibitions. A gathering that includes backbiting is a gathering of sin, and it is not permissible for a person to sit in it unless he is forbidding this evil and influencing its participants to abandon this sin. In that case, he may sit with them. However, if he sits with them and remains silent and does not object to them, he becomes sinful and a partner with them in the sin because he did not forbid the evil. And if he is pleased with their action, he becomes a partner with them in the backbiting as well. In any case, this must be forbidden, and it is not permissible to be pleased with it or remain silent about it. Rather, it must be forbidden, and the gatherings of Muslims must be purified from this vile backbiting. Nothing is permissible in backbiting except what is necessitated by dire necessity, such as speaking about a person to the one in authority regarding the bad deeds he commits, so that the one in authority can take action against him and prevent him from doing so, because this is part of forbidding evil. Likewise, in the case of legal proceedings, if a person complains about someone who wronged him, seized his wealth, or denied his right, there is no harm in mentioning to the judge what he dislikes about him.
So that the judge can be just to the wronged person against him. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Bulugh al-Maram 7:106. The "wajid" is the wealthy person who refuses to pay the debts he owes. So his creditor has the right to complain about him to the judge and mention that he is a procrastinator, that he is a denier of the right, or a blocker of the right, so that the judge can take action against him and be just to the owner of the right. Yes.
After this, we move on to a message from one of the brothers who says: I am a young man in my twenties. My friends always visit me at my workplace. Some of them always talk about the faults and bad behavior of others. We always engage in backbiting about them and try to prevent some of them from dealing with them. Is this forbidden for us? Or what is the advice I hear from our honorable guide on this program?
Answer:
Yes, backbiting and talebearing are among the major sins. As for backbiting, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
It is saying something about your brother which he would dislike
ذكرك أخاك بما يكرهor backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead?
وَلَا يَغْتَب بَّعْضُكُم بَعْضًا أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَن يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًاIf what you say of him is true, you have slandered him, and if what you say of him is not true, you have reviled him.
إن كان فيه ما تقول فقد اغتبته، وإن لم يكن فيه ما تقول فقد بهته،So that the judge can be just to the wronged person against him. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: "Delay in payment on the part of one who possesses the means, makes it lawful to dishonor and punish him."
صلى الله عليه وسلم لي الواجد ظلم يحل عرضه وعقوبته،
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، ما حكم الجلوس في مجلس يشتمل على غيبة وقدح في أعراض الناس؟ الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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