The Meaning of the Hadith: The Dead Person Is Punished by the Crying of His Family Over Him

Question:
A statement I know, may Allah be pleased with her, when the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) mentioned , she said: Allah the Exalted said, "And no bearer of a burden shall bear the burden of another." She said, may Allah be pleased with her: "The Qur'an comes to you."

Answer:
Yes, Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, cited the verse as evidence. How can the dead be punished for the deed of another, which is wailing? The scholars answered that the meaning of "punished" is if he bequeathed it before his death. If he bequeathed that people should wail over him and that mourning gatherings be held for him, as happens now in some countries, and mourning gatherings are established, then the dead person is the one who bequeathed that, so he is punished in his grave. There are many hadiths regarding wailing, so he is punished in his grave because he is the one who bequeathed it himself.
As the poet said: "If I die, then requite me with what I deserve, and wail over my shroud, O mother of Ma'da." He ordered that the shrouds be placed over him after his death, and this is from the practice of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance (jahiliyyah). So whoever bequeaths that mourning gatherings be held for him after his death, and wailers, and other religious innovations (bid'ah), he is punished, meaning this is from his deed. And others answered that the meaning of "punished" is not that...
...he is recompensed for the deed of another, but rather the meaning of "punished" is that he suffers from it, and that this protects him and pains him, so this is the punishment of the creation, not the punishment in the Fire, but rather it is psychological punishment, psychological punishment where he is guarded from what they do, and he suffers and is distressed by this thing while he is in his grave. The hadith is established from the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him).
In any case, the known rule is that specifying the general is known; this is knowledge. "And no bearer of a burden shall bear the burden of another," but this is general. But his saying (peace and blessings be upon him) is specific, so this specifies the statement "And no bearer of a burden shall bear the burden of another." There is a conflict between the general and the specific; this is a rule with him. Yes.