A girl rejects suitors on the grounds that he lets his garment hang below the ankles and does not grow his beard; what is the guidance for her?
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The questioner:
A girl who is twenty-five years old has been proposed to by many young men, but none of them adhere to the correct Sunnah. Some of them pray and fast, but they do not grow their beards, they do not refrain from letting their garments hang below the ankles, they do not care about praying in the mosques despite their abundance and proximity, and they do not care whether the woman wears a Sharia-compliant hijab or an incomplete hijab. Knowing that I am extremely keen to find a young man who adheres to these things, I have rejected everyone who proposed to me and did not adhere to these things. So what is your opinion, Honorable Shaykh, regarding my action? Is there a sin on me for refusing to marry these men? And how do I reach what I want? I ask for advice and guidance. May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
As for the one who does not pray, it is not permissible for you to marry him, because he is a disbeliever, and it is not permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a disbeliever. His saying, the Exalted: "And do not [also] marry[Al-Mumtahanah 60:10] for him," He said, the Exalted: "And do not [also] marry," and He said, the Exalted: [Al-Baqarah 2:221].
As for the one who prays but has some sins, it is obligatory for you to look for the best option, to look for the best option as much as possible, because perfection is not attainable in every respect. So look for the best, the best of the best. As for obtaining a husband who is one hundred percent committed in every respect, that is difficult. But you must look for the best of the best, and do not be too strict with these conditions that have caused you to miss marriage until you reached this age. As long as he is a Muslim, praise be to Allah, even if he has some shortcomings in what is right, and it is possible to improve him later, it is possible to improve him and influence him later. Yes.
The questioner:
May Allah reward you with good. To be as clear as possible, Shaykh Salih, regarding growing the beard and regarding the garment, are these considered matters that prevent a girl from accepting a young man who has these characteristics?
The Shaykh:
As long as he prays, yes. As long as he prays, good. The remaining sins can be corrected, as we mentioned.
The questioner:
Good.
The Shaykh:
It is possible that someone better committed than him proposes to her, seeking help from Allah. Then she prefers him. But if only someone of this type proposes to her, then she looks for the best and the most suitable among the most suitable.
The questioner:
May Allah reward you with good. After twenty-five, do you think anyone will propose to her?
The Shaykh:
Usually, if a woman delays her marriage to this age, few people propose to her. So she should delay [her strictness], she should lighten these conditions. It is sufficient that the husband prays and adheres to prayer.
The presenter:
May Allah bless you. May Allah reward you with good.
A girl who is twenty-five years old has been proposed to by many young men, but none of them adhere to the correct Sunnah. Some of them pray and fast, but they do not grow their beards, they do not refrain from letting their garments hang below the ankles, they do not care about praying in the mosques despite their abundance and proximity, and they do not care whether the woman wears a Sharia-compliant hijab or an incomplete hijab. Knowing that I am extremely keen to find a young man who adheres to these things, I have rejected everyone who proposed to me and did not adhere to these things. So what is your opinion, Honorable Shaykh, regarding my action? Is there a sin on me for refusing to marry these men? And how do I reach what I want? I ask for advice and guidance. May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
As for the one who does not pray, it is not permissible for you to marry him, because he is a disbeliever, and it is not permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a disbeliever. His saying, the Exalted: "And do not [also] marry
return them to the disbelievers; they are not lawful [wives] for them, nor are they lawful
تَرْجِعُوهُنَّ إِلَى الْكُفَّارِ لَا هُنَّ حِلٌّ لَّهُمْ وَلَا هُمْ يَحِلُّونَAnd do not marry polytheistic men [to your women] until they believe.
وَلَا تُنكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكِينَ حَتَّىٰ يُؤْمِنُواAs for the one who prays but has some sins, it is obligatory for you to look for the best option, to look for the best option as much as possible, because perfection is not attainable in every respect. So look for the best, the best of the best. As for obtaining a husband who is one hundred percent committed in every respect, that is difficult. But you must look for the best of the best, and do not be too strict with these conditions that have caused you to miss marriage until you reached this age. As long as he is a Muslim, praise be to Allah, even if he has some shortcomings in what is right, and it is possible to improve him later, it is possible to improve him and influence him later. Yes.
The questioner:
May Allah reward you with good. To be as clear as possible, Shaykh Salih, regarding growing the beard and regarding the garment, are these considered matters that prevent a girl from accepting a young man who has these characteristics?
The Shaykh:
As long as he prays, yes. As long as he prays, good. The remaining sins can be corrected, as we mentioned.
The questioner:
Good.
The Shaykh:
It is possible that someone better committed than him proposes to her, seeking help from Allah. Then she prefers him. But if only someone of this type proposes to her, then she looks for the best and the most suitable among the most suitable.
The questioner:
May Allah reward you with good. After twenty-five, do you think anyone will propose to her?
The Shaykh:
Usually, if a woman delays her marriage to this age, few people propose to her. So she should delay [her strictness], she should lighten these conditions. It is sufficient that the husband prays and adheres to prayer.
The presenter:
May Allah bless you. May Allah reward you with good.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، فتاة ترد الخاطبين بحجة أنه يسبل إزاره ، ولا يعفي لحيته، ما التوجيه حولها؟ الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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