Pleasing the Wife and the Heart’s Attachment to Her
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Question:
He says: Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. He says: It is mentioned in the book of the author (may Allah have mercy on him) that if a man’s heart becomes attached to a woman, that contradicts servitude, especially if he seeks her pleasure. He also says that the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) sought the pleasure of his wives in matters other than disobedience. I hope you will comment on this, as some people of weak character may mistreat their wives, taking this statement of the author and your explanation of it as their basis?
Answer:
It is clear that pleasing the wife means giving her her right, giving her her right, and treating her with kindness is what Allah has commanded, saying, “And live with them in kindness.” She has a right, without doubt. The issue arises if he prefers her pleasure to the pleasure of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He)[At-Tawbah 9:24]. If he places his wife’s pleasure above the pleasure of Allah, that contradicts servitude or diminishes servitude. But if he does not place it above, and instead gives her her right and treats her with kindness, that is what is required. Yes.
He says: Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. He says: It is mentioned in the book of the author (may Allah have mercy on him) that if a man’s heart becomes attached to a woman, that contradicts servitude, especially if he seeks her pleasure. He also says that the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) sought the pleasure of his wives in matters other than disobedience. I hope you will comment on this, as some people of weak character may mistreat their wives, taking this statement of the author and your explanation of it as their basis?
Answer:
It is clear that pleasing the wife means giving her her right, giving her her right, and treating her with kindness is what Allah has commanded, saying, “And live with them in kindness.” She has a right, without doubt. The issue arises if he prefers her pleasure to the pleasure of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He)
If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your relatives, wealth which you have obtained, commerce wherein you fear decline, and dwellings with which you are pleased are more beloved to you than Allah and His Messenger and jihad in His cause
إِن كَانَ آبَاؤُكُمْ وَأَبْنَاؤُكُمْ وَإِخْوَانُكُمْ وَأَزْوَاجُكُمْ وَعَشِيرَتُكُمْ وَأَمْوَالٌ اقْتَرَفْتُمُوهَا وَتِجَارَةٌ تَخْشَوْنَ كَسَادَهَا وَمَسَاكِنُ تَرْضَوْنَهَا أَحَبَّ إِلَيْكُم مِّنَ اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ وَجِهَادٍ فِي سَبِيلِهِ
Source
العبودية لشيخ الإسلام ابن تيمية، العبودية لشيخ الإسلام بن تيمية [2] — alfawzan.live (1:11:16)
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