The Ruling on Preparing Food and Feasts for the Family of the Deceased

Question:
What about the food distribution at the graveyards, and what they call the seventh night, and gathering at the home of the bereaved?

Answer:
You should make du'a for the bereaved and for the deceased, saying, "May Allah console you, may Allah forgive, may Allah improve your situation, may Allah console you, and may Allah forgive your deceased." If the deceased was a Muslim, you say, "May Allah forgive your deceased." But if the deceased was a disbeliever, you limit yourself to saying, "May Allah improve your situation and console you," and you do not say, "May Allah forgive your deceased," if the deceased was a disbeliever, because one does not make du'a for forgiveness for a disbeliever. To this extent, it is prescribed. As for the customs of people that accompany it, such as preparing gatherings, parties, and other such things, these are among the invalid matters. As for going to the home of the bereaved to console them, whether in the market, in the store, in the mosque, or in any place, you console them, or you go to their home, there is no harm. You go to their home and console them; all of this is fine. But setting times for condolences, places, setting up tents and canopies, slaughtering animals, and designating days and weeks, all of this is not permissible. First, because it is a bid'ah (religious innovation), and second, because it is extravagance and waste. The noble Companion Jarir ibn Abdullah said, "We considered gathering at the home of the bereaved and preparing food to be part of wailing." If matters are exaggerated to this extent, they become part of wailing. But if the neighbors prepare food for the family of the deceased and bring it to them because they are occupied with the bereavement and do not cook food because they are distressed, their neighbors prepare food for them to eat, this is from the Sunnah. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "That which comes to them occupies them." This is from cooperation and from showing compassion to the bereaved.
As for the opposite, which is that the bereaved person himself holds parties and prepares feasts and does this and that, this is contrary to the Sunnah, and it involves fatigue and expenses. . This is a ruling. If you hear about the situation.
Yes, indeed, you do not attend these gatherings. If you attend them, you have approved them. If they are your relatives, you attend, but you warn them against this thing, you warn them against this thing, you advise them that this is not a prescribed matter, and it is not befitting to encourage others to do it, because this becomes a custom, and whoever does not do it is considered negligent, or in a state of deficiency. You must be aware of these things and teach people and explain the Shari'ah ruling to them little by little, so that perhaps Allah will guide through you and benefit through you. Yes, there is no fixed limit of three days or one day or this; it is according to what is feasible.