Boasting about Lineages and the Ruling on Rejecting a Committed Suitor Due to His Lineage

The questioner:
And this is what my honorable father says: I bear witness to Allah and the Guardians of your love for the sake of Allah, and I ask Allah, Mighty and Majestic, to prolong our lives and your lives in His obedience, and to make us beneficial to people. Between some of the people of good, there is a matter of boasting about lineages. In fact, some of them may reject a committed young man, not because of any deficiency in his religion or his trustworthiness, but because he is not of noble descent. A word of guidance in this matter?

The Shaykh:
We say: May Allah love you for the sake of whom you loved us. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: remains a right, , and he said (peace and blessings be upon him): is a great nearness to obedience to Allah and His Messenger. It is prescribed for the believer to love his brother for the sake of Allah, and to advise one another for the sake of Allah (Mighty and Majestic).
As for what concerns boasting and taking pride in lineage, this is from the practice of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance (jahiliyyah). The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said in the authentic hadith: the pre-Islamic age of ignorance (jahiliyyah). And he said (peace and blessings be upon him): that he should consider him, and he said (peace and blessings be upon him): If a man is good and from the people of religion, he should be married and not rejected. Likewise, if a woman is good, she should be married, even if she is not from the Arabs. The Arabs and non-Arabs are equals in religion. Allah the Exalted said: whether they are non-Arabs or Arabs, whether Turkish, German, African, or Quraysh, they are all equals if they fear Allah (Mighty and Majestic). His statement about "Hudhri" and "Mawla" are new conventional terms with no basis. Abu Hudhayfah ibn 'Utbah ibn Rabi'ah, who was from Quraysh, married Salim the freed slave. A woman from the family of Hudhayfah married the daughter of her brother, al-Walid ibn Nufayh, who was from the core of Quraysh. And Abu Rahmah ibn Abi Thabit married his sister, and Bilal ibn Rabah, who was Abyssinian and one of the best of the Companions, came to her. So the point is that this matter has no basis; it is merely a custom that people have adopted. Some scholars mentioned that there is no harm in it if a Qurayshi does not marry someone other than a Qurayshi, but the scriptural evidence indicates that the matter is broad in this regard, and there is no obstacle to a Hashimi or Qurayshi marrying the rest of the Arabs, and the rest of the people, even if he is a freed slave, like the one who believes and then believes, let alone if he is a non-Arab from the Turks, or from the Africans, or from the Andalusians, or from other classes and groups of people. The important thing is religion. For this reason, he said (peace and blessings be upon him) in the authentic hadith: her hand, showing the one with religion, even if she is from a group other than the Banu 'Umayyah, even if you are Qurayshi and she is African, Turkish, Indian, Spanish, or similar, if she has religion. And he said (peace and blessings be upon him): so create this face, unless you do it, you will remain in the Pleiades, and the noble peace.
And sufficient in this is the statement of the Exalted and Majestic is He in the great verse: We created you from a male and a female. He mentioned Adam as the male and Hawwa as the female. This is our grandfather and our grandmother, all of us, all the children of Adam; all of them, whether Arab or non-Arab, have one grandfather and one grandmother: Adam and Hawwa. We made you into peoples and tribes not for boasting, but for mutual recognition. This one is Qurashi, this one is 'Utaybi, this one is Mutayri, this one is such-and-such, deserving of [praise]. And from the boasting and arrogance, the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said: . Boasting is among the causes of arrogance and injustice. Then he said after And he said: O Messenger of Allah, who is the most noble of people? He said: The most God-fearing among you. Meaning, even if he is an Abyssinian slave, he is the most God-fearing among you and the most numerous, and even if he is the poorest of people with no wealth, he is the poorest; he is not the most noble because he is the richest. The most noble among them is not the one I think is from Quraysh or from Banu Hashim. No, Abu Lahab was from Banu Hashim, and he was among the most wretched of people and among the people of the Fire. His hands were cut off with gold, from Banu Hashim, the uncle of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). And Abu Talib, the uncle of the Prophet, died upon other than Islam after he had supported the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). Islam did not guide him, and his being from Banu Hashim did not benefit him. And so it was with the group who betrayed [the Prophet] among Quraysh; their lineages did not benefit them, and they ended up in the Fire. So honor, nobility, and dignity are in obedience to Allah and His Messenger, whether you are Qurashi, Indian, Indonesian, African, or otherwise. And so, the most noble of women is the one most God-fearing of them to Allah.

The presenter:
Yes.

The Shaykh:
Like the hour, it cuts it from the four sunnahs, from the fifth sunnah, he fears from the spoils, meaning do not delay the prayer, if Allah wills. A time period of about, if Allah wills, an hour and a quarter, and the Shaykh fears embarrassing us, but we remain, if Allah wills.