The Rights of the Wife, the Rights of the Husband, and the Advice Concerning Women

Question:
This questioner says: Are women not the counterparts of men? So why do we see men who do not respect women? Rather, they insult women, beat women, and harm women, giving them no attention or respect at all, even though the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) advised regarding women with goodness. Is there any advice for those harsh husbands?

Answer:
Yes, it is obligatory to treat women with kindness, and it is obligatory for the husband to treat her with kindness, to be just with her, to fulfill her rights, and to treat her with good conduct, as Allah the Exalted said: "And live with them in good conduct." He must not strike her except for a valid reason. Allah the Exalted said: If she is disobedient, strike them. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: If she disobeys him and is harsh with him, he should admonish her, remind her of Allah, and boycott her for as long as he sees it will deter her, except in speech, where the boycott should be for three days. If he needs to strike her, it should be a non-harmful strike; because she has disobeyed and transgressed what is required, there is no harm in this. It is his right, and the Lawgiver has permitted it, but it must be a non-harmful strike if she persists in her disobedience and he is capable of fulfilling her rights. Yes.
It is also obligatory for the woman to listen and obey her husband, to fulfill the rights that are upon her, and to guard against disobeying him without right. This is her obligation: to obey him in what is good. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) even said: So he must not wrong her, and she must not disobey him. Each of them is obligated to fulfill their duty. He must be just with her and fulfill her rights regarding maintenance, clothing, good treatment, good character, good speech, and fairness. She, in turn, must treat him with good conduct, be fair to him with good speech, good manner, and listening and obedience in what is good, so that each one is quicker to do good to the other. Each one knows his right, each one knows his obligation, and each one hastens to do what is required of him. He fulfills the right, and she fulfills the right, and in this way, affairs are set right. However, if one of them falls short, problems arise. If the husband falls short in her rights and does not treat her justly, or if she falls short and does not treat him justly, problems arise. So each of them has a right and an obligation, and the husband's obligation is greater. For this reason, Allah the Exalted said: "And men have a degree of authority over women." The man is in charge of her, as Allah the Exalted said: This is the authority of the man, because Allah has preferred the male gender over the female gender, because they are generally stronger in matters than women, and because they provide the wealth and expenses, so they have authority in this regard. And the woman has her right in terms of being treated justly and having her rights fulfilled regarding clothing, maintenance, and good treatment in word and deed, and not having bad character. Yes.