The ruling on shaking hands with women and kissing mahrams
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The questioner:
And this is a question about the ruling on shaking hands, even with an elderly woman.
The Shaykh:
Shaking hands with women is not permissible, whether the woman is old or young, except for mahrams. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said,Sunan Ibn Majah 2874Sahih (Darussalam) When she wanted to extend her hand to him for the pledge of allegiance, she said, Sunan Ibn Majah 2874Sahih (Darussalam). Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) said, , even though Allah protected him (peace and blessings be upon him), and despite this, he did not shake their hands. An old woman may be desired by some people; it is not permissible, the situation is not valid, neither for an old woman nor anyone else; every fallen thing has a picker-up.
The questioner:
And if she is behind a barrier.
The Shaykh:
Even if there is a barrier of clothing, he does not shake hands with them except with mahrams. His sister, his aunt, there is no objection; his wife, there is no objection. But a non-mahram, or his cousin’s daughter, or his brother’s wife, he does not shake her hand; or his uncle’s wife, he does not shake her hand; or his maternal uncle’s wife, he does not shake her hand. Except his father’s wife, there is no objection, she is a mahram; his son’s wife is a mahram; his sisters, his aunts, his cousins, they are mahrams, there is no objection.
The questioner:
Then kissing mahrams, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh:
There is no harm, but he kisses on the cheek, not on the mouth. The mouth is for the wife; he kisses her on the cheek. For an elderly woman, he kisses between her eyes, on her head, on her nose, not on her mouth. Does he leave off kissing on the mouth, or not? Except for the wife, or children; he kisses the child on the mouth. The child was not
The questioner:
at night.
The Shaykh:
Leaving it off is better. Shaking hands or kissing the head between the eyes is sufficient. And if he kisses the hand sometimes for an imam or a scholar or a father, there is no harm, but he does not make it a habit.
The questioner:
The second source.
The Shaykh:
He does not make it a habit, not for the sake of a caller; sometimes there is no harm. (peace and blessings be upon him). The father has a great status.
And this is a question about the ruling on shaking hands, even with an elderly woman.
The Shaykh:
Shaking hands with women is not permissible, whether the woman is old or young, except for mahrams. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said,
But I do not shake hands with women.
إني لا أصافح النساءBut I do not shake hands with women.
إني لا أصافح النساءBy Allah, the hand of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) never touched the hand of a woman. He did not take their pledge of allegiance except by words.
والله ما مست يد رسول الله يد امرأة قط، ما كان يبايعهن إلا بكلام،The questioner:
And if she is behind a barrier.
The Shaykh:
Even if there is a barrier of clothing, he does not shake hands with them except with mahrams. His sister, his aunt, there is no objection; his wife, there is no objection. But a non-mahram, or his cousin’s daughter, or his brother’s wife, he does not shake her hand; or his uncle’s wife, he does not shake her hand; or his maternal uncle’s wife, he does not shake her hand. Except his father’s wife, there is no objection, she is a mahram; his son’s wife is a mahram; his sisters, his aunts, his cousins, they are mahrams, there is no objection.
The questioner:
Then kissing mahrams, O Shaykh.
The Shaykh:
There is no harm, but he kisses on the cheek, not on the mouth. The mouth is for the wife; he kisses her on the cheek. For an elderly woman, he kisses between her eyes, on her head, on her nose, not on her mouth. Does he leave off kissing on the mouth, or not? Except for the wife, or children; he kisses the child on the mouth. The child was not
The questioner:
at night.
The Shaykh:
Leaving it off is better. Shaking hands or kissing the head between the eyes is sufficient. And if he kisses the hand sometimes for an imam or a scholar or a father, there is no harm, but he does not make it a habit.
The questioner:
The second source.
The Shaykh:
He does not make it a habit, not for the sake of a caller; sometimes there is no harm.
Fatimah used to enter upon the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and kiss him, and when he entered upon her, he would kiss her, and when she entered upon him, he would kiss her and take her hand.
كانت فطرة إذا دخلت على النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قبلته، وإذا دخل عليها قبلته، وإذا دخلت عليه قبلها وأخذ بيدها
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فتاوى الحج ١٤١٠ هـ - ٦ — archive.org (2:10)
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