The Ruling on Holding Funerals and Lamentation

Question:
First, the question is about the ruling on holding a funeral and organizing it. Then, as this questioner says, is it permissible for me to go to them on the second or third day to offer condolences for this deceased? Perhaps the time will be mealtime, and food has been prepared in the deceased's house. Is it permissible for me to eat from it? Please guide us. May Allah reward you with good.

Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions. These funerals that are held for the deceased, which consist of setting up tents, gathering people in them, and hiring reciters or something worse than that, such as eulogies in which the deceased's virtues are mentioned and grief over his death is displayed, preparing food, or perhaps containing wrongdoings such as missing the congregational prayers, smoking, or the mixing of men and women. These funerals are forbidden in their essence, forbidden in their essence, because they are not prescribed in the first place.
They are a type of lamentation; because they involve enumerating the virtues of the deceased, excessive praise, and displaying grief. So they are not prescribed in the first place, in addition to the wrongdoings mentioned in them, or whose mention is well-known from the trustworthy ones, regarding what happens in them, and the innovations such as reciting for the deceased. Reciting for the deceased is an innovation, especially if reciters are hired for that purpose. Then this wage is forbidden, because reciting the Qur'an for a wage is forbidden earnings, because it is not permissible to hire for acts of worship. And no reward reaches the deceased through this path. So it is spending money in vain and burdening the poor and needy who have deceased relatives and do not have the means to hold these funerals. And whoever does not hold them is considered by them to have not fulfilled the duty of the deceased. Likewise, if the rich hold them, they have been extravagant with money and spent it in a non-prescribed manner. So these funerals are forbidden in general and in detail. And it is not permissible for a person to attend them except for the purpose of disapproval and explaining that they are forbidden, so that perhaps they will abandon them and retract from them. But if he is not one who disapproves of them, it is not permissible for him to attend them; because he would be a partner with them in the sin. As for condolences, they are easy, praise be to Allah, in the prescribed manner; because when you meet someone who has been afflicted by the death of a relative, you greet him and offer condolences with the supplication that has been transmitted: "May Allah improve your consolation, may Allah compensate your loss, and may Allah forgive your deceased." If you meet him in the mosque, meet him in the cemetery, meet him in the street, in his shop, in his workplace, you offer condolences to him without there being arrangements, and expenses, and wasting of time. All of this is from the burdens and shackles for which Allah has not sent any authority. Yes.