The factors that help in being dutiful to parents
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Question:
Honorable Shaykh, this questioner asks: What are the factors that help one to be dutiful to parents, especially if they are not righteous?
Answer:
The parents have a right, and it is the second of the rights after the right of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He).[Al-Isra 17:23] [An-Nisa 4:36] The right of the parents comes after the right of Allah, even if they are disbelievers; they have the right over their child to be treated with kindness and to be provided for. Allah the Exalted said: "And if they strive to make you associate with Me…" [Luqman 31:14-15] [Luqman 31:15], treat them with kindness in this world, even if they are polytheists. Be kind to them in your companionship through good speech, providing for them, and visiting them. However, in your heart, do not love a disbeliever, even if he is your parent. [Al-Mujadila 58:22], so you treat him with kindness even if you do not love him, as a way of fulfilling his right over you and repaying him for the kindness he showed you when you were small. [Al-Isra 17:24] This is in the category of returning the whole. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you,
Honorable Shaykh, this questioner asks: What are the factors that help one to be dutiful to parents, especially if they are not righteous?
Answer:
The parents have a right, and it is the second of the rights after the right of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He).
And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment.
وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًاWorship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good
وَاعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا(14) And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination. (15) But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness and follow the way of those who turn back to Me [in repentance]. Then to Me will be your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do.
وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْنًا عَلَىٰ وَهْنٍ وَفِصَالُهُ فِي عَامَيْنِ أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُ وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰ أَن تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِknowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness
عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًاYou will not find a people who believe in Allah and the Last Day having affection for those who oppose Allah and His Messenger, even if they were their fathers or their sons
لَّا تَجِدُ قَوْمًا يُؤْمِنُونَ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ يُوَادُّونَ مَنْ حَادَّ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَلَوْ كَانُوا آبَاءَهُمْ أَوْ أَبْنَاءَهُمْand say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small."
وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًاThe presenter:
May Allah reward you,
Source
75-اللقاء الأسبوعي مع الشيخ صالح الفوزان - 09 — archive.org (48:01)
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