The Meaning of Boycotting in the Sleeping Place and Its Regulations
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The Shaykh:
Peace be upon you, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.
The questioner:
May Allah bless you and reward you. At the beginning of this meeting, may Allah protect you. We begin with a question from a brother who said: In the saying of Allah the Exalted,[An-Nisa 4:34], he asks: May Allah bless you, what is the meaning of boycotting in this verse? And what are the regulations of boycotting in the Shari'ah?
The Shaykh:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions. Allah the Exalted and Majestic said:[An-Nisa 4:34] [An-Nisa 4:34] This verse concerns dealing with a wife's defiance (nushuz) toward her husband, which is her arrogance over him and her withholding of his rights. This is forbidden for her, but it may occur in some women. It is to be addressed, and she is not left in a state of defiance without first being dealt with by her husband according to the three stages mentioned by Allah: "of those from whom you fear defiance, admonish them." Admonition means warning her of Allah the Mighty and Majestic and explaining what has come in the hadiths regarding the threat for the one who defies her husband without right. If a woman spends the night while her husband is angry with her, the angels curse her until morning. This is a severe threat, and various types of threats have come with this meaning. If admonition does not work, he should boycott her. Boycott means leaving her off; he leaves off speaking to her, he leaves off speaking to her, and conversing with her, so that she knows she is in the wrong. If boycotting her in speech does not work, he should boycott her in the bed, so he does not sleep with her.
Or he sleeps with her and turns away from her. “And strike them in the sleeping places.” The third stage: if boycotting does not work, he strikes her. To discipline her. A strike that is not severe. Rather, he disciplines her until she returns from her defiance. This is refinement and discipline. One does not leave the one who is in error in his error. Rather, he deals with it. Especially the parent with his children, and the teacher with his students. Discipline and proper conduct: whoever is deprived of proper conduct is deprived of good. As the proverb says, whoever feels safe from punishment behaves badly. This is the meaning of the noble verse, and it indicates the obligation of the woman’s obedience to her husband in fulfilling his rights and what he asks of her from what is her right upon him. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you,
Peace be upon you, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.
The questioner:
May Allah bless you and reward you. At the beginning of this meeting, may Allah protect you. We begin with a question from a brother who said: In the saying of Allah the Exalted,
Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand.
وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِThe Shaykh:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions. Allah the Exalted and Majestic said:
But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means
وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلَا تَبْغُواseek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand.
عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلًا إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيرًاOr he sleeps with her and turns away from her. “And strike them in the sleeping places.” The third stage: if boycotting does not work, he strikes her. To discipline her. A strike that is not severe. Rather, he disciplines her until she returns from her defiance. This is refinement and discipline. One does not leave the one who is in error in his error. Rather, he deals with it. Especially the parent with his children, and the teacher with his students. Discipline and proper conduct: whoever is deprived of proper conduct is deprived of good. As the proverb says, whoever feels safe from punishment behaves badly. This is the meaning of the noble verse, and it indicates the obligation of the woman’s obedience to her husband in fulfilling his rights and what he asks of her from what is her right upon him. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you,
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 02/258 — archive.org (0:55)
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