Guidance for the Unmarried Man and the Marriage of Women
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The Shaykh:
May Allah greet you and bless you.
The questioner:
Honorable Shaykh, this sister who is asking says: We are a group of sisters who have truly missed the train of marriage and have become spinsters in our homes, due to some of the conditions imposed by some of the fathers (may Allah guide them). Honorable Shaykh, we ask you to give a word of guidance on this topic through this platform, *Nur 'ala al-Darb*.
The Shaykh:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions. Allah the Exalted and Majestic said:[An-Nur 24:32] Allah the Exalted and Exalted commanded the awliya (guardians) to marry off the young men and slaves under their care, because this preserves their chastity and protects them, and it leads to righteous offspring and procreation, and it contains great benefits in the husband’s provision, protection, and safeguarding of his wife. For this reason, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “O young men, Sunan an-Nasa'i 3208Sahih (Darussalam) And whoever cannot afford it, let him fast, for it is a restraint for him.” Allah the Exalted and Majestic said: [An-Nur 24:33].
Therefore, chastity and modesty are required and obligatory, but hastening to marry when one is able is an obligatory duty, especially in the case of marrying off women. It is obligatory for the woman’s guardian to hasten to marry her off as soon as a suitable suitor proposes and she is pleased with him; it is not permissible for him to delay her marriage and let this righteous suitor slip away.
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: [Al-Anfal 8:73]. If a guardian is found preventing the marriage of his daughter to a suitable suitor whom she has accepted, this is called *i'dal* (preventing marriage), and *i'dal* is a major sin, one of the major sins. His guardianship is then revoked and transferred to the next guardian in line. However, this must be done through the Sharia court. If it is found that there is a guardian obstructing the marriage of a woman under his care to a suitable suitor whom she has accepted, it is necessary to bring his case to the judge so that he may appoint another guardian from among the awliya to marry her, so that the opportunity and her life are not wasted. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you, our Shaykh
May Allah greet you and bless you.
The questioner:
Honorable Shaykh, this sister who is asking says: We are a group of sisters who have truly missed the train of marriage and have become spinsters in our homes, due to some of the conditions imposed by some of the fathers (may Allah guide them). Honorable Shaykh, we ask you to give a word of guidance on this topic through this platform, *Nur 'ala al-Darb*.
The Shaykh:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions. Allah the Exalted and Majestic said:
And marry the unmarried among you and the righteous among your male slaves and female slaves
وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْWhoever among you can afford it, let him get married, and whoever cannot then he should fast, for it will be a restraint (wija') for him.
مَنِ اسْتَطَاعَ مِنْكُمُ الْبَاءَةَ فَلْيَتَزَوَّجْ وَمَنْ لَمْ يَسْتَطِعْ فَعَلَيْهِ بِالصَّوْمِ فَإِنَّهُ لَهُ وِجَاءٌBut let them who find not [the means for] marriage abstain [from sexual relations] until Allah enriches them from His bounty.
وَلْيَسْتَعْفِفِ الَّذِينَ لَا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحًا حَتَّىٰ يُغْنِيَهُمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِTherefore, chastity and modesty are required and obligatory, but hastening to marry when one is able is an obligatory duty, especially in the case of marrying off women. It is obligatory for the woman’s guardian to hasten to marry her off as soon as a suitable suitor proposes and she is pleased with him; it is not permissible for him to delay her marriage and let this righteous suitor slip away.
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
If a suitor comes to you whose religion and trustworthiness you are pleased with, marry her to him.
إذا أتاكم أن ترضون دينه وأمانته فزوجوهIf you do not do so, there will be fitnah on earth and great corruption.
إِلَّا تَفْعَلُوهُ تَكُن فِتْنَةٌ فِي الْأَرْضِ وَفَسَادٌ كَبِيرٌThe presenter:
May Allah reward you, our Shaykh
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 02/269 — archive.org (0:55)
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