The Ruling on Eating at the Home of the Deceased During the Days of Condolence
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Question:
This questioner asks, saying: What is the ruling on eating at the home of the deceased during the days of condolence? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
Eating is permissible, but what people do now of exaggerating the condolence, gathering, and burdening the family of the deceased by preparing mats, chairs, servants, and so on, and keeping the family of the deceased and those with them from working for three days, all of this has no basis, and it is a hardship for people. It is obligatory to leave this, and the condolence is achieved without it. It is achieved by supplication if you meet the bereaved, or call him on the telephone or mobile phone, or write to him: “May Allah improve your condolence, and may Allah console your loss, and may Allah forgive your deceased.” This is sufficient, and praise be to Allah. It is easy, and it has benefit for the living and the deceased. And if the family of the deceased needs, if the family of the deceased needs the preparation of food, it is prepared for them according to their need, by the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) Jami` at-Tirmidhi 998Hasan (Darussalam) When Ja'far ibn Abi Talib (may Allah be pleased with him) was martyred in the Battle of Mu'tah, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Sahih Muslim 1099b
This is from helping them. And Jarir ibn 'Abd Allah (may Allah be pleased with him) says: We used to consider the gathering, Jarir ibn 'Abd Allah al-Bajali says:Sunan Ibn Majah 1612Da’if (Darussalam). Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you,
This questioner asks, saying: What is the ruling on eating at the home of the deceased during the days of condolence? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
Eating is permissible, but what people do now of exaggerating the condolence, gathering, and burdening the family of the deceased by preparing mats, chairs, servants, and so on, and keeping the family of the deceased and those with them from working for three days, all of this has no basis, and it is a hardship for people. It is obligatory to leave this, and the condolence is achieved without it. It is achieved by supplication if you meet the bereaved, or call him on the telephone or mobile phone, or write to him: “May Allah improve your condolence, and may Allah console your loss, and may Allah forgive your deceased.” This is sufficient, and praise be to Allah. It is easy, and it has benefit for the living and the deceased. And if the family of the deceased needs, if the family of the deceased needs the preparation of food, it is prepared for them according to their need, by the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)
Prepare food for the family of Ja'far
اصنع لآل جعفر طعامsome food for the family of Ja'far, for indeed something has happened to them that will keep them busy.
طعاما فإنه قد جاءهم ما يشغلهم.Abu 'Atiyya reported: I and Misruq went to 'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) and Masruq said to her: There are two persons among the Companions of Muhammad (ﷺ) none of whom abandons the good, but one of them hastens to observe sunset prayer and break the fast, and the other delays in observing the sunset prayer and in breaking the fast, whereupon she said: Who hastens to observe sunset prayer and break the fast? He said: It is 'Abdullah. Upon this she said: This is how the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) used to do.
صلى الله عليه وسلم يصنع لآل جعفر طعاما.This is from helping them. And Jarir ibn 'Abd Allah (may Allah be pleased with him) says: We used to consider the gathering, Jarir ibn 'Abd Allah al-Bajali says:
We used to think that gathering with the family of the deceased and preparing food was a form of wailing.
كنا نعد الاجتماع إلى أهل الميت وصنعة الطعام من النياحةThe presenter:
May Allah reward you,
Source
نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 02/293 — archive.org (10:06)
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