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﴿ فَاسْأَلُوا أَهْلَ الذِّكْرِ إِن كُنتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ ﴾

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The ruling on marrying off a virgin without her consent

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Question:
How does a girl accept a suitor when she does not know him, and only her father knows him? Does he have to reject the proposal if she rejects it?

Answer:
Yes, if she does not accept, she is not to be married to anyone she does not approve of or accept. Her desire is necessary, and the suitor must be a suitable match for her. The Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with proposes to (someone under the care) of one of you, then marry to him. If you do not do so, then there will be turmoil (Fitnah) in the land and abounding discord (Fasad).إذا أتاكم من ترضون دينه وأمانته فزوجوه إلا تفعلوا تكن فتنة في الأرض وفساد كبير،
Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1084Da'if (Darussalam)
A woman who has been married before must be consulted, and if she gives permission, her guardian may marry her off. Likewise, a virgin who has reached puberty must also be consulted, and her silence is her permission, as stated in the hadith. If she remains silent, she has agreed. If she is below the age of discernment, it is for her guardian, specifically her father, to decide. It is specifically for her father, if he sees benefit in her marriage, to marry her off. He takes the place of the minor in choosing a suitable match for her. As for marrying her off at this age to gain some personal benefit from it, this is forbidden, not permissible, and the contract is invalid. However, if he chooses a righteous, suitable match for her, seeing that it is in her interest, he may marry her off to him, just as Abu Bakr al-Siddiq (may Allah be pleased with him) married the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) to Aisha when she was six years old. The Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) contracted the marriage when she was six and consummated it when she was nine. This is evidence of the permissibility of marrying off a minor, marrying off those who are underage, which the ignorant people now deny because they want to abolish marriage. This is permissible under this condition: the one contracting the marriage must be the father, and the benefit must be for her, not for him. Yes.
Source نور على الدرب - الفوزان - 03/240 — archive.org (9:39)

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