How to Deal with a Quick-Tempered Wife

The questioner:
Another man asks: I have a paternal cousin who has seven children, and I give him what Allah has decreed for him because his situation is difficult. I have a wife who is concerned about me and does not want me to give him anything. Out of extreme anger, she stops eating for two days. We have been in this state for four years, and I have four children from her. What is Your Eminence’s opinion on this? And when she gets angry, she leaves off the Fajr prayer?

The Shaykh:
This is something strange; there is no power or strength except by Allah. This is very unusual. She prevents him from giving charity, and she prays the prayer for that reason, and she goes without food for that reason. This is a bad state. He must seek her repentance and show her the evil of her action, and that this action is wrong, and that it is obligatory for her to help in doing good. If a poor paternal cousin has children, she should help him to give charity to him and give him whatever money is easy for him, on the condition that he does not beat his wife and children. A condition of this giving is that he does not beat the woman and her children from him. If he has a surplus that allows him to provide for the maintenance of his wife and children and their clothing, and that what he gives her from her cousin is in addition to what does not harm him, then her action is wrong and does not befit her. Her striking a hunger strike is wrong, and her striking a hunger strike regarding the Fajr prayer is even more wrong and more wrong. The obligatory thing is that he speaks to her in the best manner, shows her her defect, and explains her mistake to her. If she has a good father, or a good brother, or a good uncle, he informs him so that he may advise her and convey to her the evil of her action. If he had been falling short, it would not have come to this, so how much more so if he has what covers the need and has a surplus to help his poor cousin? In any case, she has made a great mistake, so her husband must treat her and turn her to Allah and urge her to be mindful of Allah, perhaps she will become upright and perhaps she will find guidance. This is a wrong thing, and it is not permissible to remain in it.

The presenter:
Divorce her.

The Shaykh:
The application is by looking, the application is by looking.

The presenter:
Leave it.

The Shaykh:
Children, perhaps he will reform her, which is better than divorcing her. If she does not reform, then divorce after that, for a man who has...

The questioner:
Is it permissible to divorce a wife who insists on abandoning the prayer?

The Shaykh:
One must wait, perhaps it is obligatory, because this voice is disbelief.

The presenter:
It is obligatory from the body of the hunter.

The Shaykh:
The prayer saves and reminds her in the heart of Allah. If she insists on abandoning the prayer or not praying, he separates from her and distances himself from her. If she is his wife and he insists on shortening the prayer, she distances herself from him. She does not strike until she goes to her people until he repents to her.