What is the ruling on this statement: "The compliant ones are playing with us" or "The compliant ones are concealing a matter"?
Machine translationRead the Arabic original
The questioner:
If we tell our families and our companions, based on what the scholars (may Allah preserve them) have agreed upon, that this is haram (forbidden), such as what the Honorable Shaykh Ibrahim al-Ghayth mentioned regarding our children when they eat, which is a reference to the cross, and if we tell our families that, they say the words that anger the conservative Muslims, specifically saying, "The compliant ones are playing with us" or "The compliant ones are concealing a matter," and it has come to that, and you do not know what is hidden from you. Allah knows best.
The Shaykh:
In any case, if they say it to you, you must advise them, clarify it to them, and be patient. Do not get angry or hasten. Show them the error and clarify the error to them. You are in the fifteenth century, not the first century. You are in the fifteenth century, in which the strangeness of Islam has intensified, and falsehood has spread therein.
The questioner:
Yes.
The Shaykh:
So you must advise the son.
The questioner:
There is no god but Allah.
The Shaykh:
And you must clarify the rulings of Islam with gentleness, and not hasten or get angry, not with your mother, not with your father, and not with your brother. For when you get angry and hasten, they will humiliate you, degrade you, and expel you. So you must be gentle in advising and guiding to good with the father, with the mother, with the brothers, and with the neighbors. And Allah the Exalted says:[Ali 'Imran 3:159], and the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) says: Sunan Abi Dawud 4809Sahih (Al-Albani) Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 27:14 So the student of knowledge, and the caller and advisor, must be gentle, and not hasten. There is nothing with the parents; their right is great. And so with your neighbors, your brothers, and your communities, be gentle until they do not accept from you, and until you are not expelled or sent away. Yes.
The questioner:
O Shaykh, we have a television and video in the house. Every time I enter the house, I turn it off and shorten it for them. The mother stood up against me, my father stood up, and these men stood up,
The Shaykh:
and I do not refuse with anger. So advise, O my Lord (may Allah preserve him). And you must always, always, have good manners, if Allah wills, they will benefit from it. You must have patience and good speech. "O my son, O my son, this and that, this is not suitable, this is not permissible." If you turn it on to the Qur'an or something good, he does not do it. But this is not suitable, twice, three times, thirteen times,
The questioner:
they thank you with hypocrisy.
The Shaykh:
And there is no need; it does not harm the person.
If we tell our families and our companions, based on what the scholars (may Allah preserve them) have agreed upon, that this is haram (forbidden), such as what the Honorable Shaykh Ibrahim al-Ghayth mentioned regarding our children when they eat, which is a reference to the cross, and if we tell our families that, they say the words that anger the conservative Muslims, specifically saying, "The compliant ones are playing with us" or "The compliant ones are concealing a matter," and it has come to that, and you do not know what is hidden from you. Allah knows best.
The Shaykh:
In any case, if they say it to you, you must advise them, clarify it to them, and be patient. Do not get angry or hasten. Show them the error and clarify the error to them. You are in the fifteenth century, not the first century. You are in the fifteenth century, in which the strangeness of Islam has intensified, and falsehood has spread therein.
The questioner:
Yes.
The Shaykh:
So you must advise the son.
The questioner:
There is no god but Allah.
The Shaykh:
And you must clarify the rulings of Islam with gentleness, and not hasten or get angry, not with your mother, not with your father, and not with your brother. For when you get angry and hasten, they will humiliate you, degrade you, and expel you. So you must be gentle in advising and guiding to good with the father, with the mother, with the brothers, and with the neighbors. And Allah the Exalted says:
So by mercy from Allah, [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you.
فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِّنَ اللَّهِ لِنتَ لَهُمْ وَلَوْ كُنتَ فَظًّا غَلِيظَ الْقَلْبِ لَانفَضُّوا مِنْ حَوْلِكَHe who is deprived of gentleness is deprived of good.
مَنْ يُحْرَمِ الرِّفْقَ يُحْرَمِ الْخَيْرَ كُلَّهُ،Whenever there is compassion in something, it adorns it, and whenever it is removed from something it disgraces it.
ويقول النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم لا يكون من شيء إلا زانه، ولا ينزع من شيء إلا شانه،The questioner:
O Shaykh, we have a television and video in the house. Every time I enter the house, I turn it off and shorten it for them. The mother stood up against me, my father stood up, and these men stood up,
The Shaykh:
and I do not refuse with anger. So advise, O my Lord (may Allah preserve him). And you must always, always, have good manners, if Allah wills, they will benefit from it. You must have patience and good speech. "O my son, O my son, this and that, this is not suitable, this is not permissible." If you turn it on to the Qur'an or something good, he does not do it. But this is not suitable, twice, three times, thirteen times,
The questioner:
they thank you with hypocrisy.
The Shaykh:
And there is no need; it does not harm the person.
Source
قناة «فضيلة الشيخ ابن باز Alsheikh Binbaz»، 063 ما حكم هذا القول المطاوعة يلعبون علينا أو المطاوعة يكتمون حديثًا؟ للإمام ابن باز — youtube.com
The Arabic text is a machine transcription of the audio recording.