The Ruling on Istikhara in Matters of Obedience and Its Etiquette
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The questioner:
Finishing the food
The Shaykh:
And the customary thing, the people stand up, yes.
The questioner:
She gave her the mahr.
The Shaykh:
You don't remember anything about it. Yes.
The questioner:
If the host desires to stay after the ten days?
The Shaykh:
There is no harm in wanting to, there is no harm.
The questioner:
No, by Allah, Shaykh, may Allah keep you safe. Is istikhara in a matter of obedience recommended?
The Shaykh:
The wife, choosing the husband, whether he marries or does not marry, or the wife chooses him or he does not marry, or based on lineage or not based on lineage, for other reasons.
The questioner:
Zaynab did it.
The Shaykh:
Because she wanted to seek istikhara from her Lord, whether to marry or not to marry.
The questioner:
Husayn.
The Shaykh:
Yes, meaning there is doubt in the person's mind, there is doubt and hesitation, yes,
The reader:
Qutaybah ibn Sa'id narrated to us, Ja'far, meaning ibn Sulayman, narrated to us, from al-Ja'd Abu Uthman, from Anas ibn Malik, who said:Sahih Muslim 1428g
The Shaykh:
To fulfill the obligatory duty, because she does not know whether she will be able to fulfill the obligatory duty to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), whether she will be unable to do so, it may be because of her fear for herself that she will not be able to fulfill the obligatory duty. Yes.
The questioner:
It is not recommended, O Shaykh, to do istikhara in a matter of obedience, he said, only if it occurs to one's self.
The Shaykh:
In hesitation, does he seek istikhara and pray or does he not pray, there is no istikhara, he prays or he does not pray, and he performs Hajj or he does not perform Hajj, it does not apply, and he does not pay zakah, the point is that there is confusion, he marries so-and-so, he seeks istikhara whether it is suitable or not suitable? He marries from the family of so-and-so, he seeks istikhara is it suitable? He travels to such-and-such a place, does he take this road or that road?
The questioner:
Then hesitation occurs.
The Shaykh:
The thing in which there is doubt of hesitation in your mind.
The questioner:
Is it one of the prayers with a cause, the prayer of salam?
The Shaykh:
One is compelled to it, and it may not be one of the prayers with a cause, it may be in a critical time, one may be compelled to it, so it becomes one of the prayers with a cause. Istikhara before consultation? Istikhara after, if he seeks istikhara he consults,
The questioner:
Witness. Yes.
Finishing the food
The Shaykh:
And the customary thing, the people stand up, yes.
The questioner:
She gave her the mahr.
The Shaykh:
You don't remember anything about it. Yes.
The questioner:
If the host desires to stay after the ten days?
The Shaykh:
There is no harm in wanting to, there is no harm.
The questioner:
No, by Allah, Shaykh, may Allah keep you safe. Is istikhara in a matter of obedience recommended?
The Shaykh:
The wife, choosing the husband, whether he marries or does not marry, or the wife chooses him or he does not marry, or based on lineage or not based on lineage, for other reasons.
The questioner:
Zaynab did it.
The Shaykh:
Because she wanted to seek istikhara from her Lord, whether to marry or not to marry.
The questioner:
Husayn.
The Shaykh:
Yes, meaning there is doubt in the person's mind, there is doubt and hesitation, yes,
The reader:
Qutaybah ibn Sa'id narrated to us, Ja'far, meaning ibn Sulayman, narrated to us, from al-Ja'd Abu Uthman, from Anas ibn Malik, who said:
Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) contracted marriage and he went to his wife. My mother Umm Sulaim prepared hais and placed it in an earthen vessel and said: Anas, take it
تَزَوَّجَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَدَخَلَ بِأَهْلِهِ قَالَ فَصَنَعَتْ أُمِّي أُمُّ سُلَيْمٍ حَيْسًا فَجَعَلَتْهُ فِي تَوْرٍ فَقَالَتْ يَا أَنَسُ اذْهَبْ بِهَذَاThe Shaykh:
To fulfill the obligatory duty, because she does not know whether she will be able to fulfill the obligatory duty to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), whether she will be unable to do so, it may be because of her fear for herself that she will not be able to fulfill the obligatory duty. Yes.
The questioner:
It is not recommended, O Shaykh, to do istikhara in a matter of obedience, he said, only if it occurs to one's self.
The Shaykh:
In hesitation, does he seek istikhara and pray or does he not pray, there is no istikhara, he prays or he does not pray, and he performs Hajj or he does not perform Hajj, it does not apply, and he does not pay zakah, the point is that there is confusion, he marries so-and-so, he seeks istikhara whether it is suitable or not suitable? He marries from the family of so-and-so, he seeks istikhara is it suitable? He travels to such-and-such a place, does he take this road or that road?
The questioner:
Then hesitation occurs.
The Shaykh:
The thing in which there is doubt of hesitation in your mind.
The questioner:
Is it one of the prayers with a cause, the prayer of salam?
The Shaykh:
One is compelled to it, and it may not be one of the prayers with a cause, it may be in a critical time, one may be compelled to it, so it becomes one of the prayers with a cause. Istikhara before consultation? Istikhara after, if he seeks istikhara he consults,
The questioner:
Witness. Yes.
Source
التعليق على بعض أحاديث صحيح مسلم، تابع شرح كتاب النكاح والرضاع والطلاق (4) — islamhouse.com (7:15)
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