The Punishment of the Dead Due to the Mourning of Their Families and His Saying, Exalted is He: “No bearer of a burden shall bear the burden of another”

Question:
I said to the Shaykh, may Allah grant you success: “What is the ruling on what A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said when the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) mentioned that a person is punished in his grave by what is done for him? She said: Allah, Exalted is He, said, ‘No bearer of a burden shall bear the burden of another.’ She said, may Allah be pleased with her: ‘The Qur’an has come to you.’”

Answer:
Yes, A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) cited the verse “No bearer of a burden shall bear the burden of another” as evidence. How can the dead be punished by the action of another, which is wailing? The scholars answered that the meaning of “punished” is if he had willed it before his death. If he willed that people wail over him and that mourning gatherings be held for him, as happens now in some countries, where mourning gatherings are held and the dead person is the one who had willed it, and since there are many hadiths regarding wailing, he is punished in his grave because he is the one who willed it. As the poet said: “When I die, relieve me of what I deserve, and wail over my grave, O mother of Ma‘bad.”
He ordered that a grave be dug for him after his death. This is from the practice of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance. So whoever wills that mourning gatherings be held for him after his death, and wailing women, and other such religious innovations, he is punished because this is part of his action. Others answered that the meaning of “punished” does not mean he is punished for the action of another, but rather that the meaning of “punished” is that he is pained by it, and that this protects him and causes him pain. So this is a specific type of punishment, not the punishment in the Fire, but rather psychological punishment, punishment of the soul, where he is embarrassed by what they do and is pained and distressed by this thing while he is in his grave. The hadith is established from the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), in any case.
The well-known rule is that specifying a general statement is known. This is knowledge. “No bearer of a burden shall bear the burden of another” is a general statement, but his saying (peace and blessings be upon him) is specific, so this specifies the statement “No bearer of a burden shall bear the burden of another.” So there is no contradiction between the general statement and this. He said this is a rule with him. Yes.