My husband works all day and leaves me with the responsibility of raising the children. Is it a sin for me if one of them gets sick and I take him to the doctor?
Machine translationRead the Arabic original
The questioner:
May Allah reward you with good and do you well. You say your husband works from six in the morning until ten at night, and likewise on Friday, except for the time of the midday prayer when he comes for lunch, then sleeps and goes out at three in the afternoon. He leaves you with the responsibility of raising the children, guiding them, and teaching them. Even at the time of their appointments, I go out alone with them to the doctor. Is it a sin for me to go out like this? And does his not sharing these matters with me affect the upbringing of the children? May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
If this husband needs to work and earn in order to provide for himself and his children, he is rewarded, but on the condition that he maintains the prayers at their appointed times and the Friday prayer with the Muslims, and then works in the remaining times. He is rewarded for this if his intention is to suffice himself and those he supports. You are also rewarded if you cooperate with him by raising the children, attending to their needs, and taking them to the doctor if they need it. You are rewarded for this because this is cooperation in righteousness and piety. However, you must observe the etiquettes of Islam when going out, adhering to the etiquettes of Islam regarding hijab and covering, avoiding free mixing with men, and being cautious of fitnah (trial, discord or temptation). It is permissible to go out under these conditions out of necessity and to cooperate with your husband in his task. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good and do you well. But Shaykh Salih, working in this continuous manner from six in the morning until ten at night, do you think this is one hundred percent correct?
The Shaykh:
Perhaps he needs this.
The presenter:
O Allah, send blessings upon Muhammad.
The Shaykh:
And he needs this. If necessity drives him to this, he is rewarded for it. Yes.
The presenter:
And if the goal is to accumulate much of this worldly life, its adornments, and its pleasures?
The Shaykh:
In any case, this is permissible, but hardship on oneself to a degree that one cannot bear is not desirable.
The presenter:
O Allah, send blessings.
The Shaykh:
A person must give his self its right of rest. Your self has a right over you, your wife has a right over you, and your guests have a right over you. So give every one who has a right their due.
May Allah reward you with good and do you well. You say your husband works from six in the morning until ten at night, and likewise on Friday, except for the time of the midday prayer when he comes for lunch, then sleeps and goes out at three in the afternoon. He leaves you with the responsibility of raising the children, guiding them, and teaching them. Even at the time of their appointments, I go out alone with them to the doctor. Is it a sin for me to go out like this? And does his not sharing these matters with me affect the upbringing of the children? May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
If this husband needs to work and earn in order to provide for himself and his children, he is rewarded, but on the condition that he maintains the prayers at their appointed times and the Friday prayer with the Muslims, and then works in the remaining times. He is rewarded for this if his intention is to suffice himself and those he supports. You are also rewarded if you cooperate with him by raising the children, attending to their needs, and taking them to the doctor if they need it. You are rewarded for this because this is cooperation in righteousness and piety. However, you must observe the etiquettes of Islam when going out, adhering to the etiquettes of Islam regarding hijab and covering, avoiding free mixing with men, and being cautious of fitnah (trial, discord or temptation). It is permissible to go out under these conditions out of necessity and to cooperate with your husband in his task. Yes.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good and do you well. But Shaykh Salih, working in this continuous manner from six in the morning until ten at night, do you think this is one hundred percent correct?
The Shaykh:
Perhaps he needs this.
The presenter:
O Allah, send blessings upon Muhammad.
The Shaykh:
And he needs this. If necessity drives him to this, he is rewarded for it. Yes.
The presenter:
And if the goal is to accumulate much of this worldly life, its adornments, and its pleasures?
The Shaykh:
In any case, this is permissible, but hardship on oneself to a degree that one cannot bear is not desirable.
The presenter:
O Allah, send blessings.
The Shaykh:
A person must give his self its right of rest. Your self has a right over you, your wife has a right over you, and your guests have a right over you. So give every one who has a right their due.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، زوجي يعمل طوال اليوم ويترك لي مسؤولية تربية الأطفال فهل علي ذنب إذا مرض أحدهم أن أخرج به إلى الطبيب؟ — youtube.com
The Arabic text is a machine transcription of the audio recording.