The Ruling on Attending Parties That Contain What Is Wrong
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The questioner:
The visitor says to me, “It is the right answer, and he has returned.” It is said, “He is among the people of his time.” He says, “I have advised the visitor not to declare him a disbeliever for what he has at this time, but he does not know which concern this is. This is the preparation until you declare him a disbeliever. This matter is that he helped himself from one who is rich in himself.”
The Shaykh:
If the gathering contains what is wrong, and you have forbidden it and advised him, but he did not accept, then do not attend. Do not attend this gathering, even if you find it in yourself, because this is wrong, and he is one who commands [evil] and refused to accept the advice. So it is obligatory for you to leave the presence in order to forbid the wrong. He is the one who does good, and he is the one who does good.
The questioner:
And were it not that it requires.
The Shaykh:
And these exaggerations in the gatherings, and holding the 'aradat [dances] and songs for the sake of brevity, all of this is among the wrongs. It is not permissible. The Sunnah is that the women strike the drum between them, and there is no harm in their singing with the usual singing with their voices among themselves. This is the Sunnah. As for the men, it is not prescribed for them except listening, eating food, praising Allah, and the patience of Allah the Mighty and Majestic. As for these actions, they must be left. These exaggerations and wrongs: they stay up all night, or they sleep through the Fajr prayer, or they sleep the neighbors. All of these are violations. It is not permissible to continue with them. And if it is the custom of the country, when customs contradict the Shari'ah, it is obligatory to distance oneself from them, because we, praise be to Allah, are Muslims. It is obligatory for us to follow what the Shari'ah commands and leave what the Shari'ah forbids. If the custom contradicts, the custom is corrected. If there is a deviation, it is corrected. Yes.
The visitor says to me, “It is the right answer, and he has returned.” It is said, “He is among the people of his time.” He says, “I have advised the visitor not to declare him a disbeliever for what he has at this time, but he does not know which concern this is. This is the preparation until you declare him a disbeliever. This matter is that he helped himself from one who is rich in himself.”
The Shaykh:
If the gathering contains what is wrong, and you have forbidden it and advised him, but he did not accept, then do not attend. Do not attend this gathering, even if you find it in yourself, because this is wrong, and he is one who commands [evil] and refused to accept the advice. So it is obligatory for you to leave the presence in order to forbid the wrong. He is the one who does good, and he is the one who does good.
The questioner:
And were it not that it requires.
The Shaykh:
And these exaggerations in the gatherings, and holding the 'aradat [dances] and songs for the sake of brevity, all of this is among the wrongs. It is not permissible. The Sunnah is that the women strike the drum between them, and there is no harm in their singing with the usual singing with their voices among themselves. This is the Sunnah. As for the men, it is not prescribed for them except listening, eating food, praising Allah, and the patience of Allah the Mighty and Majestic. As for these actions, they must be left. These exaggerations and wrongs: they stay up all night, or they sleep through the Fajr prayer, or they sleep the neighbors. All of these are violations. It is not permissible to continue with them. And if it is the custom of the country, when customs contradict the Shari'ah, it is obligatory to distance oneself from them, because we, praise be to Allah, are Muslims. It is obligatory for us to follow what the Shari'ah commands and leave what the Shari'ah forbids. If the custom contradicts, the custom is corrected. If there is a deviation, it is corrected. Yes.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 13/8 شرح الأصول الثلاثة / صالح الفوزان — youtube.com (1:16:21)
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