The circumstances in which a suitor is accepted and those in which he is not
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The questioner:
Our Shaykh, 'Abd al-'Aziz, when is a suitor accepted?
The Shaykh:
There is a distinction here. If she is a Muslim and he is not a Muslim, he must be rejected. However, if he is a sinner, it is better to reject him if someone better than him is available.
The presenter:
Mm.
The questioner:
But sometimes, rejecting him may lead to her remaining unmarried.
The Shaykh:
We seek help from Allah.
The presenter:
And one should not break off a match with a sound person. So, if her father sees that marrying her off, even to a man who commits some sins, is necessary to protect her from fitnah (trial, discord or temptation), there is no blame in that. But if someone better than him is available, it is obligatory for the father, and for the other awliya (guardians), to seek that out. However, if they exert themselves to marry her to a man who is not pleasing in all his character, but he is a Muslim and she is willing,
The questioner:
and they see that marrying her off is in her interest to protect her from fitnah (trial, discord or temptation), then there is no blame, if Allah wills.
The Shaykh:
May Allah do you good, and may He reward you. What are the things that can be overlooked, and the suitor accepted?
The presenter:
Sins are numerous; we ask Allah for safety from them.
The Shaykh:
(peace and blessings be upon him).
The presenter:
A sinner may commit some of what is wrong, such as smoking, such as consuming some intoxicants, such as engaging in riba (usury or interest) transactions, such as being lax in maintaining the house at times, not praying in congregation, but he does pray, and the like of this. Yes.
The Shaykh:
The important thing is that he prays, and that is the primary condition.
The presenter:
Please proceed.
The questioner:
It is necessary. May Allah bless you and reward you.
Our Shaykh, 'Abd al-'Aziz, when is a suitor accepted?
The Shaykh:
There is a distinction here. If she is a Muslim and he is not a Muslim, he must be rejected. However, if he is a sinner, it is better to reject him if someone better than him is available.
The presenter:
Mm.
The questioner:
But sometimes, rejecting him may lead to her remaining unmarried.
The Shaykh:
We seek help from Allah.
The presenter:
And one should not break off a match with a sound person. So, if her father sees that marrying her off, even to a man who commits some sins, is necessary to protect her from fitnah (trial, discord or temptation), there is no blame in that. But if someone better than him is available, it is obligatory for the father, and for the other awliya (guardians), to seek that out. However, if they exert themselves to marry her to a man who is not pleasing in all his character, but he is a Muslim and she is willing,
The questioner:
and they see that marrying her off is in her interest to protect her from fitnah (trial, discord or temptation), then there is no blame, if Allah wills.
The Shaykh:
May Allah do you good, and may He reward you. What are the things that can be overlooked, and the suitor accepted?
The presenter:
Sins are numerous; we ask Allah for safety from them.
The Shaykh:
(peace and blessings be upon him).
The presenter:
A sinner may commit some of what is wrong, such as smoking, such as consuming some intoxicants, such as engaging in riba (usury or interest) transactions, such as being lax in maintaining the house at times, not praying in congregation, but he does pray, and the like of this. Yes.
The Shaykh:
The important thing is that he prays, and that is the primary condition.
The presenter:
Please proceed.
The questioner:
It is necessary. May Allah bless you and reward you.
Source
قناة «فضيلة الشيخ ابن باز Alsheikh Binbaz»، 3749 - الأحوال التي يرد فيها الخاطب والتي لا يرد فيها - نور على الدرب — youtube.com
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