What is the ruling on a father forcing his son to marry a woman he does not want?

The questioner : He also says: If a father wants to marry his son to an unsuitable woman, and the son refuses, and the son wants to marry a suitable woman, but the father refuses, what is the ruling?

The Shaykh : This is similar in that it is not permissible to force a son to marry a woman he does not approve of, whether the defect in her is religious or moral, or moral—pay attention—it is not permissible for a person to force his son to marry a woman he does not approve of, whether that is due to a moral defect, a moral defect, or a religious defect. How many have regretted it when they ordered or forced their children to marry women they did not want! They say, "Marry her because she is your brother's daughter," "Marry this one because she is your cousin's daughter," "Marry this one because she is from your tribe." The son says, "Father, I do not want her." He says, "No, it is necessary; she is of us and with us, do not let her go." It is not obligatory for him to accept, and it is not permissible for the father to force him to marry her. But what is the second part?

The questioner : The son wanted to marry a suitable woman.

The Shaykh : Likewise, the son wanted to marry a suitable woman, but the father prevented him and said, "Do not marry her." Is the son obligated to obey him? The answer is no. If the son approves of a suitable wife and his father says, "Do not marry her," he may marry her even if his father prevents him, because the son is not obligated to obey his father in anything that causes no harm to his father and in which the son has benefit. If we said that the son is obligated to obey his father in everything, even in matters that bring no benefit to the son and no harm to the father, that would lead to harms. However, in such a situation, the son should be tactful with his father, conceal the matter from him as much as he can, and try to convince him as much as he can. Yes.