The ruling on having a non-Muslim maid in the house and advice regarding marriage

The questioner : This person asks: What is the ruling on a man who has a maid in his house?

The Shaykh : With what?

The questioner : What is the ruling on a man who has a non-Muslim maid in his house, and what should he do with her? And regarding this, meaning the issue of the maid, in a similar question, he says: Often there is disagreement between my father and my mother that reaches the level of insult, such as him hitting her in front of us while we were young, and my mother was patient with this. It happened that my mother entered and saw my father trying to seduce the maid, and as a result, her hatred for my father increased, and she could not bear him in the house. Knowing that my father is seventy-five years old, is there a sin on my mother for this, given that she provides him with service in the best way, but she does not speak to him at all, and she has continued in this state for more than three months, knowing that he has forgiven my mother for this? And does the hadith of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) apply to her, that whoever angers his wife, and the hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) regarding a husband’s anger at his wife? And sometimes I stand against my father in a state where I lose my composure, especially when I see my mother crying or quarreling with him. Will a great sin befall me for that? I ask you for advice and guidance in this.

The Shaykh : Hello, Al-Khalid.

The questioner : A maid, like that.

The Shaykh : This, my brothers, is one of the greatest deterrents against bringing in maids. A man who is seventy-five years old, meaning he is not a young man. He commits fornication with this maid, may Allah protect us from that.
And he falls under the saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) which is a matter of tea, and a proud, arrogant person, and a man who made his trade such that he does not sell except with an oath, and does not buy except with an oath. And this issue mentioned by the questioner is not far off, because we receive questions like this or worse, may Allah protect us from that, and we always warn against bringing in maids.
And a woman once burdened me. She said that she needed a maid, and that she, meaning she wished her husband to bring a maid, but the husband refused. So I gave her good advice, and I said: I see that he should marry a second woman. But she got angry and hung up the phone. Yes.
And there is no doubt that this is a mistake, a mistake on her part without a doubt. Because the second wife, the husband brings her in lawfully, and perhaps Allah will guide her to the first wife, and she will be in the position of a daughter serving her and attending to her affairs. And if it becomes difficult with the second, for example, we say: I advise him with a third, because the general rule is that if he marries a third, the issue becomes light, as is observed, because the first, if she is jealous of the second and the new third comes, she becomes against the second, so it becomes light for the first, and the third, the middle one, does not care about the third because she originally had a second woman, meaning the matter became light for her. In any case, I say that the harm of maids is severe, and that among the reasons that make the issue light is that men marry a second woman, they benefit. The peace from the dangers of these maids, and they also benefit that these unmarried women in the houses have husbands, husbands who improve their chastity, and we benefit from the third benefit, which is increasing the offspring in the Muslim community, which the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) encouraged. He said: Marry those who are fertile, for I will compete with the prophets in your number. For this reason, I advise our brothers who have the ability and whose houses need women, I advise them to marry, and I advise women to bear that and to remember the Mothers of the Believers, and that the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) died with nine wives, and that this is a matter in which there is nothing tiring or shameful. So let the first wife count it as a good deed and be patient, so she will be a helper to her husband in solving this problem. Yes.

The questioner : I am the person.

The Shaykh : As for.

The questioner : The person. Let him say Muhannad, Muhannad.

The Shaykh : As for the person, I thank him for this good deed, and I say: Try to get this maid out as soon as possible, because her remaining in the house is a burden without a doubt,

The questioner : He says that he stands against his father, O Shaykh.

The Shaykh : Yes, he accepts with a justified anger for Allah, and standing against him with anger for Allah, this is good, but he should be gentle with him in speech, as Ibrahim (peace be upon him) was gentle with his father while he was forbidding him from shirk (associating partners with Allah), he said: ?
“O my father, indeed I have come to me of knowledge that has not come to you, and he did not say, ‘O my father, you are ignorant.’ He said: , , . All of this, O my father, is gentleness with his father, and he was a polytheist and a disbeliever. But his father was harsh. What did he say? He said: ‘Are you watching over your people, O Ibrahim?’ This is a question of denial. We ask Allah for well-being, and I have thrown a stone at Muriya. We ask Allah for success for us and for you, and that He help us and you against the misleading trials, and protect us and you from what He dislikes, for He is Generous and Bountiful. And may Allah send prayers and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions.