What is the ruling on prioritizing others in acts of worship?

The questioner : What does Your Eminence say about a man who wants to break his fast at his Muslim brother's house, for no reason other than to allow his other brother the merit of feeding a fasting person?

The Shaykh : That is good, without a doubt, but better than that is for him to say to his brother, "Come to me and break your fast with me," so that he may receive the reward of feeding a fasting person, and be saved from the other having a favor over him. Perhaps the other would feel constrained; perhaps he would feel constrained. He might say, "By Allah, you see, tonight I am breaking my fast at your place." Yes, perhaps that person is in a tight spot, did not prepare for it, or does not like anyone to break their fast with him; he breaks his fast with his family. And if he likes this, the best thing is for him to prioritize himself. He says, "So-and-so, please come to my place." Yes.

The questioner : The question is: I am a young man, praise be to Allah, and I pray the tarawih with the congregation in the mosque, but, Honorable Shaykh, sometimes I want to pray in the last third of the night,

The Shaykh : We have one more word to say. This brother might say, "The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, And if he likes that fasting people break their fast at his place, I like that my brother has fasting people break their fast at his place. What do we say?"
We say, "Fine, do you not like that fasting people break their fast at your place?" He says, "Yes, I like that." We say, "Do you prefer others to your own good?" No. In matters of worship, Allah the Exalted commanded us to compete in them. He said: Never, never prefer others to yourself in acts of nearness to Allah. Never prefer others to yourself. For this reason, the scholars said that it is disliked for a person to prefer others in obedience. So he does not prefer others to the first row and stays back himself, for example. In every act of obedience, do not prefer others to yourself. They said that this is evidence of a lack of desire for obedience, especially in a matter like this. You go and ask him to eat breakfast and dinner at his place, even though the correct view on the matter of prioritizing others is that we say: prioritizing others in an obligatory act is forbidden. Prioritizing others in an obligatory act is forbidden. And prioritizing others in a recommended act is contrary to what is best, except for a benefit. And prioritizing others in a permissible act is lawful. So the categories of prioritizing others are three: prioritizing others in an obligatory act, and this is forbidden; prioritizing others in a recommended act, and this is contrary to what is best, except for a benefit; and prioritizing others in a permissible act, and this is praiseworthy for a person. They prioritize others with food, giving others to eat even if they themselves are hungry. This is a matter of the permissible. An example of prioritizing others in an obligatory act is a man who has only a little water. He has only a little water. If he performs ablution with it, it suffices him. If he gives it to others, it will be insufficient for him, and he will remain to perform dry ablution. We say this is not permissible. Do not prefer others to yourself so that you perform ablution with it, which is obligatory. A man who has only one garment and his brother is naked, and it is not possible for him to give his garment to his companion.
And he is naked. We say, do not become naked, do not become naked. Even though the matter of the garment might not be a valid example, because we say, first cover your private parts, then give it to your companion. But the matter of the water for ablution fits perfectly. It is a correct example. An example of prioritizing others in a recommended act is what?
And what is an example of prioritizing others in a recommended act? The first row. You see a person, and you are in the first row, you stand up from your place and say, "Please, so-and-so." This is contrary to what is best. The jurists explicitly stated that it is disliked. But the correct view is that it is contrary to what is best, and if there is a benefit, there is no harm. For example, if you stay back for this man for the sake of reconciliation, because some people, when they see that people are prioritizing them, increase their desire for good and praying with the congregation. So you do this, for example, to reconcile him so that he desires it. This is good. Or a man whose father comes, and you stay back for him. This is also good, because your father in this situation will see it for you and count it as dutifulness to him. Permissible and well-known. For example, you give food to another person while you crave it, but you prioritize him. This is good. Yes.