The Permissibility of Divorce When There Is a Need for It
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The questioner:
Yes, yes. A dispute occurred between me and my wife. I am Syrian and she is Syrian. She is a student in the Faculty of Pharmacy. She was always asking me for a divorce, saying, "I am waiting for you until I graduate from the university, and then I will leave you and do what I have to do." This promise led to her slapping me, spitting in my face, hitting me, and being bold with me. If it were not for my fear of divorce, because it angers Allah and the seven heavens tremble at it, I would have divorced her long ago. Her conduct toward me has become bad, and she looks down on me. Her father and mother have failed to resolve this with me, as have her relatives. They are asking me to be patient. What should I do, when I hate her and she hates me?
The Shaykh:
There is no power and no strength except with Allah. This, my brother, is a bad situation. Who told you that divorce angers Allah? Who told you that the heavens tremble at it?
This is a lie. Divorce does not cause the heavens to tremble, and Allah is not angered by it if it is in its proper place. Divorce is from the mercy of Allah and from the blessings of Allah. If you ask for ten [divorces], he divorces her and you are relieved of her. So divorce is permissible. Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, said: "Divorce is twice," and He said:[At-Talaq 65:1]. So divorce is permissible, but leaving it is better if there is no need. It is disliked if there is a need. As for if there is a need, and one of them ruins your face and attacks you, resembling your face, we ask Allah for safety.
The point is, there is no harm if you see that patience is better for you, so do not rush into divorce. Strive with her using kind words, and give her money. Satisfy her with money. If she improves and accepts from you, and if you divorce her, Allah will give you someone more blessed than her. And those... this is if she is good. If her conduct is good, not like this behavior. This is if she prays, is good in her religion, is chaste, is far from fitnah (trial, discord or temptation), is modest, and wears the hijab. So, hold on to her, satisfy her with money, speak to her about this regarding her bad conduct, and seek help against her from Allah, then from her good relatives and her good people, so that they may advise her and guide her. If she straightens out, otherwise, distance yourself from her and divorce her. There is nothing against you in divorce. For a bad woman, by the grace of Allah, divorce is not the anger of Allah.
The presenter:
Good. May Allah keep us safe.
Yes, yes. A dispute occurred between me and my wife. I am Syrian and she is Syrian. She is a student in the Faculty of Pharmacy. She was always asking me for a divorce, saying, "I am waiting for you until I graduate from the university, and then I will leave you and do what I have to do." This promise led to her slapping me, spitting in my face, hitting me, and being bold with me. If it were not for my fear of divorce, because it angers Allah and the seven heavens tremble at it, I would have divorced her long ago. Her conduct toward me has become bad, and she looks down on me. Her father and mother have failed to resolve this with me, as have her relatives. They are asking me to be patient. What should I do, when I hate her and she hates me?
The Shaykh:
There is no power and no strength except with Allah. This, my brother, is a bad situation. Who told you that divorce angers Allah? Who told you that the heavens tremble at it?
This is a lie. Divorce does not cause the heavens to tremble, and Allah is not angered by it if it is in its proper place. Divorce is from the mercy of Allah and from the blessings of Allah. If you ask for ten [divorces], he divorces her and you are relieved of her. So divorce is permissible. Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, said: "Divorce is twice," and He said:
when you [Muslims] divorce women, divorce them for [the commencement of] their waiting period
إِذَا طَلَّقْتُمُ النِّسَاءَ فَطَلِّقُوهُنَّ لِعِدَّتِهِنَّThe point is, there is no harm if you see that patience is better for you, so do not rush into divorce. Strive with her using kind words, and give her money. Satisfy her with money. If she improves and accepts from you, and if you divorce her, Allah will give you someone more blessed than her. And those... this is if she is good. If her conduct is good, not like this behavior. This is if she prays, is good in her religion, is chaste, is far from fitnah (trial, discord or temptation), is modest, and wears the hijab. So, hold on to her, satisfy her with money, speak to her about this regarding her bad conduct, and seek help against her from Allah, then from her good relatives and her good people, so that they may advise her and guide her. If she straightens out, otherwise, distance yourself from her and divorce her. There is nothing against you in divorce. For a bad woman, by the grace of Allah, divorce is not the anger of Allah.
The presenter:
Good. May Allah keep us safe.
Source
قناة «فضيلة الشيخ ابن باز Alsheikh Binbaz»، مشروعية الطلاق عند الحاجة إليه - بن باز - مشروع كبار العلماء — youtube.com
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